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writes:I've read according to a study, that couples in new relationships have high levels of dopamine. Now,that's is the reason for doing ridiculous things while in a new relationship. But what about the other end of the spectrum, why do we do things that later seem ridiculous when we break up. Why does it hurt so badly when someone tells you they don't want to be with you anymore? Then later you do some crazy things like asking them to stay or where did it go wrong? My boyfriend broke with up with me a few weeks back after being together for 5 months and since then I've been doing and saying a lot of stupid things. We were trying to save our friendship. We never use to fight and now we fight all the time. I regret how ridiculous I behaved afterwards. I look back at other friends' who broke up and some of things they said and done after the break up they later regretted.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2010): i think if you have emotions and you've been dumped then you have probably done something regrettable towards the ex. i know i have, even though i try to stop myself rationally. it is hard to act like an adult when you're dumped!
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (27 March 2010):
 When people gets angry ,they become irrational and do not think straight. All kinds of filter do not work anymore and it comes out raw and caustic.
They become a different person and it is like somebody is in their driver;s seat.
They are hurt and they will lash back at that person without thinking.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2010): this doesnt only happen in love relationships but in all kinds of relationships. Something about being hurt makes you want to lash out at someone else. Most of the time it is the person who hurt you, but if they are not available, then we often turn on someone we subconsciously believe will take it and still love us. I admire those who can take it without striking back. I fail more often than i succeed. Even an animal caught in a trap, will try to bite or hurt a person. So i guess you covld sav its the nature of the beast. Mal
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo its ok. I just didn't want to use the word "stupid" in my title. Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNot my title.* Mod Note - no, it's not your title. Mod's put titles in taken from what is written if the poster has not submitted a title of has given one that is not very explanatory of the content. Eg - 'Help, what should I do?' does not give an indication of content and is more likely to be overlooked by those reading. We title them to hopefully draw some attention to them so that people will actually open them, read them, and give you lotsa helpful responses :-)*
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