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Why do I still want him, even though he has nothing to offer?

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Question - (9 November 2007) 2 Answers - (Newest, 24 April 2011)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Hello, I have been officially been broken up with my boyfriend for 2 years, well I would not say official because we continue to have sex off and on, no matter what relationship he is in? He left his rebound girl after me, and he we are still sleeping with each other.

Well I don't want to do it any more. I finally realized he is using me. I thought if I keep sleeping with him, I would become the most important thing in his life again. Because he tells me that he wants to be with me, he will drop these girls at the drop of a dime, ect. But the only thing is he is so dependent on these other girls, as he was with me, 1 of the reasons I broke up with him.

He has no car, no house, which is ok, but he lies about the smallest things. I also have even less trust for him as now I know he is a cheater and capable of cheating and it not bother him, because I have become the other woman. I never saw my ex BF in this light, he was too loyal in my eyes. I also know he still talks to other women in his past before me. He also lied about this, I don;t know why he lies to me because we are not together.

Why does he feel he still has to lie to me. Why do I still want this man even though he has nothing to offer. He does not seem to treat this new girl well because he spent the night with me last night, I don't understand there relationship where does she think he is??? Or maybe he is just that suave. I just don't know why I can't move on with a relationship and he can? Can someone help me please. I feel PATHETIC!!!!

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A female reader, pamdes United States +, writes (24 April 2011):

I am in the same place you are we have had a rocky relationship for 6 years last 1 1/2 have not slept together fight all the time. He has no car no furniture no place of his own I keep taking him back even though he has stolen from me lied to me cheated on me and used me for free place to live use of car food I am so full of anger he says I can't let go of the past as I remind him everyday what he has cost me. He says I drove him away and now he met a women at the plasma donation place and she is letting him use a truck so know he is seeing her. Im heart broken. So I feel your pain I don't what is wrong with me and why I still cry and want him in my life

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2011):

I am in the same boat as you I was in a relationship for 6 years he has no car no job no furniture nothing to offer me and now has found someone else and is using her for a truck to get to his job he just got.I kept telling myself he would change I told him to find someone else even though I did not mean it, and he did. I am heart broken. I don't know why I want him either

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