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female
age
30-35,
*oldstar
writes:A week ago, I brought someone I just met and am really into to this cafe that I used to go to with my ex whom I'm no longer talking to or in contact with. The thing is, I hadn't thought of my ex before I brought my date there but when I got there, I suddenly remembered the times that I had spent with my ex at that place. Suddenly, my mind was reeling of the possibility that I could bump into her there and that just made my stomach heave. I felt like vomiting instantly! I was so uneasy that I suggested to my date that we go somewhere else, and when we did, I felt so much better and so much more relaxed. I've been dating quite a number of people since our break up around 1 and a half years ago and I KNOW I'm completely over her. It's starting to bother me because I live in a pretty small town and I've probably gone to all the hang-out places with my ex before. I'm completely into this girl I'm dating now and I don't want to ruin things with my insane vomiting problem! Why do you think this is happening? Why do I feel like vomiting at the thought of my ex and bumping into her? Is it a natural thing? Does anyone feel this way?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (4 October 2011):
 I guess because you have a lot of shared memories with your ex that you don't want her to see you with another girl at these places. It is normal there is nothing wrong with you so try and not worry. I guess because you have no contact with her now and you don't know if she is over you completely that deep down you probably don't want to try and rub her nose in it by bumping in to her. It is also usually quite awkward when you bump in to an ex especially when you are on a date with someone else and this is probably just making you feel nervous.
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