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30-35,
anonymous
writes:My question is, why do I alwase feel so awkward when my girlfriend does stuff to me sexualy. I'm comftorable with her sexualy because we have sex and I do stuff to her all the time (oral, fingering) and it never feels awkard or weird at all. But in the begining she didn't do anything to me, we talked about it and she is starting to now. We've been going out for 10 months and have been doing sexual stuff for 8 of thoes. Were extreamly comftorable together and are like best friends aswell as a couple. So why do I feel weird and awkward when she does stuff that just feel good for me (head, handjobs)? I just feel like a bad person and that I'm like forceing her, but she says she wants to all the time, yet I still feel the same. I love the though of her doing that stuff and think about her doing it all the time, yet when it comes to where she is doing it, it turns me off and I feel like a bad person. I don't get why I feel like this.Background infoShe is my first for everything, even kissing.Never had a girlfriend before herNo female friends, ever.
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reader, GeeGee255 +, writes (7 March 2011):
 A bad person sexually speaking is one who alway seeks their own pleasure ahead of or at the expense of their partners pleasure.
As long as you makes sure she enjoys it too and you are willing to do the same things for her that she does for you then you are fine and should not feel bad about it.
And you say you enjoy pleasing her, so why would you think she wouldn't enjoy pleasing you as well? That is all part of the fun for both partners.
For example to me it would not be nice for a guy to want his girl to give him a blow job twice a day everyday or for a long time, (we get tired) and then jump on the girl and cum after less then two minutes of intercourse, roll off and immediately fall asleep.
But guess what? Sometimes it does happen. So all you can do then, is make it up to the girl by finishing her off with your mouth or your fingers. Just don't make a habit out of it.
Its all about having a good balance between give and take for both of you. That and not pressuring someone to do something they clearly do not want to do.
I hope this helps you...
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