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writes:Why is it that the guys I meet on night out, I always repeat the mistake of ignoring the one who is the better option!! I keep doing this, I don't realize it till the next day that I've done this. Two nights ago, I met this tall very good looking funny guy, who was so sweet and had a good career. Well, later that night I met a guy who was also good looking and nice but really forceful and bit cagy when talking. And the other guy friend kept telling me what am i doing with him and that his friend is far better.. But i liked the guy i was talking to at the time, so i didn't bother. Till later that night i figured out that he was right, so i tried to find the guy and turned out he had left. So again, I didn't realize till it was too late. I just wonder why I keep repeating the mistake of ignoring the better guy? Reply to this Question
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (1 January 2012):
 Better guy? Better for what? As a boyfriend? You don't know that, the good on paper guy could be a huge jackass. You don't know him. Better as a one night stand? Who cares about that, if you want to get laid you don't need someone who is good on paper.
You aren't choosing one guy over someone better. You aren't choosing boyfriends either. You are just deciding on who to talk to on a night out, and naturally if the one you currently talk to is interesting you stick to it.
You don't know if anyone else actually IS "better" and I assume you mean better as boyfriend -material? But still, you don't know that until you get to know the person and actually start a relationship with them, only then do you find out who is the better boyfriend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2012): We always prefer the out of reach guy. It's all about the chase.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2012): Because you're a woman on a night out and drunk. Who's going to stand out more? The cagey forceful guy or the unassuming nice guy? It's just in you to respond more so to the overbearing than it is the other guy because he's showing a more overt desire than the other guy. You feel more wanted by him and there's a certain edge and tension with him. Things are more exciting in that moment and you get lost in it. It's that simple really.
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