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writes:I like a guy, but I'm not entirely sure what his motives are. He definately likes me back in some way or form - he watches me quite a lot, comes over to me a lot, has kissed me on the cheek a few times...But my friend says he just wants me for sex.The thing is, this girl friend is really manipulative and seems to have a deep-seated grudge toward me. She's one of my best friends, because she can be so, so nice sometimes, but other times she will just flip and turn on me. Her moods change like the weather, and I can't trust her really...The guy in question IS more sexual than other guys who I know like me, and I voiced today that I know he's probably only after one thing. (No way in hell will I ever let him have it, I hasten to add.)But, we've been attracted to each other ongoingly for about a year or so, even though I've had other boyfriends. He seemed really put-out and offended when I said I knew what he wanted, but made no move to deny it.One of my other best friends apparently likes me, though. The two guys are very different, but the 'player' certainly doesn't like my friend getting TOO friendly with me - IE, he makes cruel little jibes. It's really unbecoming. But I can't help but think that my friend may be right in what she says. However, I cannot figure him out. I can nearly always tell, but not with him.How can I really determine what he wants? I want to understand what makes guys like this. Why do they only want us for sex? Is it insecurity?
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (22 September 2012):
 P.S. Actually, that applies at ANY age. Sorry it that caused any confusion!!!.....
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (22 September 2012):
AT your age.... listen to your friend...
Good luck....
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionDon't worry - I would never engage in anything like that until emotionally mature and completely in love with a respecting, deserving partner. Thanks for your answer! I really appreciate it. :)
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reader, nat1972  +, writes (22 September 2012):
 Hi,I can't answer for males reasons for wanting sex and such, but, more to the point of you. Your friend is probably looking out for you as friends do. Now, if this boy is very sexual and you like him and stuff. If you want a relationship with him, be honest, talk about it, and be open, tell him that you don't want sex and by that you will know if he likes you or not. Relationships are very hard at 16,17 as the subject SEX is very big. But if he respects you, then there is no problem. If he doesn't respect you then you know he is not right for you. SEX is a huge word and should only be experienced if your really in love with the opposite sex. Having it for the sake of having it is the wrong reason to have it. You need to be ready, grown up about it and responsible ie using contraception etc. Be cautious before going down this road. As your true love in your young years, you will remember for the rest of your life. So it should be special.
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