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writes:Do i deserve to be treated this way? i am a mother of 4 children...going on 5 children. my common-law husband and i have been together for 11 years. he has been great with the kids, chores around the house, and our sex life is fine.but then problem here is that he works where there is alot of new faces around. where ever we go...he still stops and stares at other ladys..as if am not around. no offense,,am not a jelous type. but that is hurting me. he would look at others ladys as if am not around. but to me..whenever i drive around with the kids.. i pay no attention to other guys. i have a guilty feeling that i have no right to look at or feel attract to other guys. i devoted myself to my common law and my children. i do not want to experience having another father for my kids. i cant even imgine myself with other guys...i am so close to his family. but to my side of family, he is just independent. he'll help whenever they(my family) ask my common law to help. but as foe me. whenever i see what my inlaws need help with..i get up and do it. without them asking me. i truly love them..do you think there is something that is wrong with our relationship? what do i do? where is this leading us too..please help..anybody?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2010): there's no commitment here from any of you if you're not married.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2007): This might shock you but 9 out of 10 men fantasize about other women so it's not actually uncommon and it's not strictly cheating. I can understand your worries but your man is the same as most other men in the world!
If you really are concerned why not ask your man about it. Tell him what you have just said opposite and explain gently that you don't distrust him, you really do love him, but it makes you feel uncomfortable.
Of course, he may feel a bit sour about it and take a few days for what you say to sink in but I'm sure the message will sink in eventually.
He may not even realize he's doing it! I'm sure he doesn't mean anything by it, but just have a little chat to smooth things over and get things straightened out.
Best of luck
xx
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reader, jezz  +, writes (30 August 2007):
 guys eye up other women because its their nature and thats what they are like, maybe you could try talking to him and telling him how you feel, if you dont he will never know and it will just carry on. there is nothing wrong wiht your relationship maybe you could try doing something that would make him get more involved in the relationship like go out for a meal or watch a movie it will help you bond and with quite a few kids i bet you dont get that much time together maybe that is why he eyes up other women.
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