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writes: my ex and i were together for 9 months, we never had sex but he wanted to, and he understood that i wasnt ready. we were talking about it one day and he said he loved me and that he didnt mind waiting. but then he never called back, he wouldnt answer my calls or anything. a month after trying to call him i sent him a txt breaking up with him, he still didnt answer. i saw him last week and he has a new girlfriend now. i want to know what could be the reason for something like that to happen, if the relationship was going well, what made him suddenly drop everything and run? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2006): Sorry, but I can't agree with the other posters that this man is a jerk.
You say you dated for nine months without having sex. My question to you is: why didn't you, after the first couple months or so, want to have sex with him?
It does not sound to me as if he was being unreasonable. He told you he wanted to have sex with you, but was willing to stay around for months, hoping it would happen.
I would say there was quite a bit more to his feelings for you than simply wanting sex. He probably did like and was fond of you. Maybe he shouldn't have told you he loved you and was willing to wait, but then didn't call your or answer your calls.
My guess is that he probably realized that you never would agree to sleep with him and he gave the relationship up as hopeless at that point.
One question: when you tried to contact him, did you indicate that you had changed your mind and now wanted to have sex?
If you did not, I can well understand why he gave up on you.
If you DID tell him you wanted sex now after all, then that would be different.
Finally, in a relationship, sooner or later it either progresses to the next level - or eventually fizzles out.
Sounds as if that is why he found someone else.
Sorry it turned out the way it did!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2006): I am sorry your boyfriend did that, but it happens sometimes....he is just experimenting probably and may have moved onto a girl who would have sex with him.
The fact that he never called back probably means he still has feelings for you, but did not want to see you because he felt awkward or small or really wanted to move on with this new girl.
It is not about you, it is truly about him and where his head is at....not enough information here to really tell you that....it is really pretty cowardly of him not to contact you even to break up, and if I were you, I would just write him off and move on yourself.
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reader, sweetiegirl  +, writes (17 December 2006):
 he is a dog face it he figured if he said he loved you you might put out for him, that same night and since you didn't he split.
He wanted sex and that was it he never really loved you if he took off on you.
you seem like a really smart girl you don't need a jerk like that
hope that helps
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