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writes:I posted on here about my ex bf and me. We were together for nearly three years and he lied and cheated the whole time. We broke up last year and for one year he led me on, ultimately saying he only wanted to be friends. He behaved in a very despicable manner. N I found out last year that he had behaved the same with his previous girlfriend as well- cheating on her while telling her how much he loved her. I checked his social networking site today and there were lots of new pictures. He looked happy and seemed to enjoy himself. What I don't understand is how does someone like him have so many good friends? How does he maintain these friendships when he was so dishonest in our relationship? How do people not see him for what he is or do they just not care as long as he is nice to them?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2008): well i know a guy who recjcted me and he didn,t care and girs fancy all because hes a cute as button.that 3 yaers ago and i am still suffer the rejction and he moved on to his next target and forgot about me .from day till this i am still sour and its so unfair why i pay the penality and hes ends up in the loving arms of some babe he me nightclub.
why you don,t public disgrace him on bebo or facebook.and show for who he really is.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2008): Darling, I am going to say some things that you probably aren't going to like to hear.
Social networking sites do not indicate how many true friends a person has...it shows how many bored people there are out there that spend their time posting stupid messages and collecting photos of so called friends... very superficial, so these people don't know him at all.
It is not a contest, he doesn't have to be a jerk or seen as a jerk so you can get even for him cheating on you....he told you he just wanted to be friends....and you must take some of the responsibility here. You dated him for three years and he cheated on you the whole time....and you must have known that and allowed him to stay in your life. It sounds to me that he was never into the relationship at all, but you probably either refused to read the writing on the wall or fantasized that you had a committed relationship when you did not. You would have been better off dating other guys while you were dating him (not sleeping with other guys, but dating them). He may have lost respect for you because you stuck around for three years without a committment from him, which seems strange, but men do that.....and it does make those that do jerks because they had so little concern for your feelings, and they took no responsibility for the effect they had on you, he took advantage and that is not nice.
Stop looking at his page, stop wondering why people like him or don't like him. Your post tells me that you are full of resentment towards him that you cannot let that resentment go because you don't want to forgive him for hurting your pride and breaking your heart possibly.
But if you think about it you forgive someone not for them, but for yourself so you can let go of resentment. Feeling resentment towards someone else only hurts you, he isn't hurt by it, he doesn't feel what you feel, in fact resentment is like swallowing poison and waiting for the other person to die. It is a useless emotion....so work on getting past it and you will be happier and when you are happier good things will happen to you and people will be attracted to a less bitter girl.
Take care and good luck to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2008): oh my gosh! that sounds exactly like my ex bf too. he is a jerk who only uses people for his own personal pleasure. who knows maybe they are the same person. he wouldnt be italian would he lol jk yeah he has many friends too and i honestly am wondering the same thing about why he has them. maybe he pretends to be mr nice guy until he gets what he wants? at least he did with me. these types of guys tend to be very charming and are always unpredictable. i think that is the main reason why people like them.
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