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female
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36-40,
* carly
writes:hi guys im pleased to say that im finally on a gud path to getting over my ex,bt its strange to me because it really took me six months to decide to be without him,now i feel like it was the best thing i could have ever done for myself,it gets lonely at times but i still feel as if i need sum more time.but i guess the real issue is the fact that i come across as vulnerable to men since the break-up its like... i dont like the thought of being alone that i always want to please, guys tend to run the other way for this reason,i don't want it to seem obvious that i like someone. what should i do so i dont seem vulnerable which iam at the moment?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2012): Just don't bother with guys at the moment. Give yourself a bit more time as you said yourself to completely move on from your ex.
Its a common mistake people make to move on with someone new all too soon after a previous breakup. People still feel vulnerable and lonely because they haven't adjusted to being on their own again, and need to feel close to somebody/anybody.
You may realize after a couple more months (Or less) of being on your own, it is best to be single for the time being because you're not ready to take on the emotional luggage of another relationship so soon.
There's nothing wrong with enjoying your own space and company, and having a stress free single life for a while until you feel ready to take the risk again.
But when you do, you'll be in the right mental and emotional frame of mind to be 100% sure you know what you want, and whether it is right for you or not. You won't be carrying any side effects from past relationships.
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