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writes: Hi everyone. Thank you for taking the time to read this. So here's the thing. I have been with my partner for many years and he's everything I could have asked for. But once every (approximately) year I go online and look up someone from my past. This is not a past boyfriend but I did have strong feelings which I suppose were never reciprocated, though at the time I was convinced otherwise. I never end up getting any information anyway and immediately tell my partner in a selfish way to get it off my chest. He does feel bad and I really want to stop! It's not even like I have feelings for this person - if I had the opportunity to be with the other person I would definitely decline. It's more like I imagine the other person feeling regret about not being with me and then i feel vindicated. I don't want to do this anymore. Can anyone give me some suggestions? Thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2016): Thank you for your considerate reply aunt honesty. I will certainly keep that in mind.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (8 November 2016):
 Curiosity killed the cat. You are making your partner miserable by telling him this. You really don't need to share everything with him. It will only give him a reason to doubt your feelings for him. Sweetie it is okay to check out people in the past. I sometimes do it with my ex. But would never dream off getting back with him. Sometimes I do it with old friends as well. Mostly it is boredom and just wondering where there life is at now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2016): Thank you Barnes66 for your reply. Yes you're right, I usually do this during vacations when I have nothing else to do.
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reader, Barnes66  +, writes (6 November 2016):
 I would say,it's a human nature to be curious about people in your past--as long as you don't contact this person or have any desire to be with him then I wouldn't worry about it .I presume you're doing this out of boredom or curiosity and nothing more
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