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writes:I've been seeing this guy for about a month and a half, and at first he was really great, but now I have noticed somethings that don't set right with me.I keep thinking that it would be good for me to get away from him but again I hate to leave him, why am I having a such a hard time leaving him? Reply to this Question
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (18 May 2009):
Well it's not a very nice task to say "Look you are lovely but several small things have indicated to me that you are not worth pursuing in a long term venture so I'm off to try elsewhere."
Especially if you think he's going to be hurt and say he'll change who he is (which won't work and you know that.)
I think you are probably just clinging to the hope that he is who you thought he was in the beginning and you don't want to have to hurt him / go through a break up.
No offence is meant by this but if you are falling into the 35 - 40 bracket and you want the whole marriage and kids thing and haven't done it already then you can't biologically afford to hang around for long.
Figure out what you want long term, and if this guy doesn't fall into that then you have to let him go. Sad, but you are also setting him free to find someone who thinks he's perfect rather than just someone who is settling for the fact he's not bad.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (18 May 2009):
 well perhaps because you do actually want to give it ago without picking at little things?
maybe you're afraid that if you do leave him you won't find anyone else to settle down with you?
or maybe you do feel you're judging a bit too quickly?
why not talk to him about these little things that are setting you back and wanting to leave him perhaps it's something he could work on.
hope this helps.
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