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female
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51-59,
anonymous
writes:i suspect my best friend and the man i have been friends with for years and crazy about are involved.who do i confront for the truth?she knows i am crazy about him.
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reader, Mistify  +, writes (5 January 2008):
 Thank you so much for the update.
I'm happy that you had the courage to deal with this situation as well as you did. And i'm very happy that your friend did the right thing by being loyal to your friendship first.
Good luck with the guy.
I'm sure your hard work will pay off.
Love & Light
-M-
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe suggestion given was a bit hard to swallow at first for I was not to sure about accepting these persons as future friends.Secondly after much work I.am now able to give response.
My feelings began to show which brought alot in the open.My girlfriend and I spoke and alot of questioning took place.We expressed feelings and views.I shared how her actions created conflict and distrust even though she meant no ill.I also explained how her behaviour interfered with the growing relationship with my male friend.She pledged her loyalty to me as a friend and we layed down policies on how to relate to each other and my male friend (The do's and the don'ts).
This took days of questions and answers to resolve.As for my male friend I had him on "sick leave" for awhile before we spoke.Life is sure full of surprises.
Thanks for your time and help. It was much appreciated.
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reader, Mistify +, writes (14 December 2007):
I think you should confront her. If she is your best friend, she's more likely to tell you the truth. If you still don't feel satisfied after you've spoken to her, i suggest you speak to your male friend.
When speaking to your best friend, you should sit her down, and tell her that you need to ask her something, and it is very difficult for you to do so, but whatever her answer may be, she must please be honest with you. Then you tell her about your suspicion, and tell her why you are suspecting them, so that she knows.
If they are indeed involved, this may be very hard for you, but you need to accept it, and try not to make a scene. They are both your friends, and if you freak - you might lose both of them.
Good luck
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