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writes: I have started dating a guy about two months ago and we are quickly becoming coming very close. I have never met someone that I clkick with so well. We have more in common than any other person I have ever dated. We are both recovering alcoholics and we understand each other in a way that most don't. There are definately strong feelings developing on both sides. The other day he made a comment about kids. His ex-wife was not able to have kids, and he said it was a relief that he didn't have to worry about becoming a father. We have never had the "do you want kids" conversation. From the comment that he made I get the impression that he doesn't want kids. I definitely want children. I do not know how to approach this conversation. It is very important to me. When is the right time to have the kid conversation? And if he doesn't want kids should I just end the relationship?
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reader, becky05 +, writes (6 July 2005):
Its a bit early in your relationship to discuss having kids together at the moment. You mentioned that you are both recovering alcoholics, he probably wants to feel 100% back on track before he even starts to think about kids.Leave it a while and see how your relationship progresses.
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reader, Helen05 +, writes (6 July 2005):
I think that you need to have this conversation sooner than later. You are both vulnerable and need to know where you stand. He could have been sounding you out too, or he could have meant he was releived about having to be a father to her kids, or it was a releif not to have to use contraception.
Putting this talk off may mean a messier break up further down the line. Good luck
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