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writes:I am 16 i have been getting really stressed at home with my parents,they are blamin me for things i havent done and i have been kicked out twice now.my mum is refusing to feed me because i am not in work at the moment i am in an collague course.and that im not bringing her enough money in,its makin me cry and feel really down evryday i dont want to live at home because its makin me hurt my self, i am currantle sleeping on the hallway because my sister moved back in my room with her boyfriend and kicked me out.i dont know what to do,when i go out with a friend he buys me lunch sometimes but i end up being sick can u help?
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reader, jm81690  +, writes (8 December 2007):
 Sounds like an ulcer.
You get them from being stressed out, I had one before, and you get sick whenever you eat if you have one.
You also can't drink alcohol with an ulcer or you get ridiculously sick.
If I were you I'd try saving up some money to move out, your mom shouln't refuse to feed you, she's your mother that's her job.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2007): I second everything than 'rcn' has said about your situation and I hope you can find a friend or counselor to help you through this. You are going through a tough time you don't deserve.I completely understand the being sick thing. I had been going through a pretty tough time lately. I was really stressed and worried and upset... and it made me throw up a lot. I didn't want to, I didn't have any major body image issues or anyting, it was just the stress of my situation overwhelming me.My advice is to try and nip it in the bud before it gets any worse. When you eat you feel sick and when you think about eating it makes you feel sick, so you don't eat. Then when you don't eat all the acids in your stomach make you sick and you just throw up bile -which is horribly unpleasant.So try your best to eat even though the thought of it is sickening. And when you do eat and you feel sick after try your best to keep it down. Eat slow and just sit and sip a glass of water. I found that "pepto-bismol" (pink liquid, comes in a bottle, get it in Boots)really helps to keep stuff down if you take it before you try and eat.Hope that helps, hope your okay xx
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reader, rcn  +, writes (8 December 2007):
 I really feel for your story. It sounds like your a good person. Even though you may be a good person, doesn't mean you can force a parent to be a good person too. When they blame you, stand up for yourself and let them know "No, sorry didn't do it, but thanks for asking."
It sounds like a change needs to be made. Your friend that buys you lunch, can you stay with them? I don't know what the age of being an adult is there, but not feeding a child is at the bottom of poor behavior, period. It's child abuse, and there's no other way of looking at it. When my children misbehave, they have to go to their room to think about what it is they did, then they have to come out and tell me what they did, and how they plan on resolving the issue so it doesn't repeat, but I never deny them a meal.
Sleeping in the hall is a bunch of crap. You need a room for you. You shouldn't have to leave your room because of them.
I would find a friend you can move in with. Seek a counselor at your school you can talk too, or your teacher. Someone you can trust to talk too. People who are older know what options will be available to you. I'm sorry you cry and are going through this. Remember, even though your mom treats you this way, you're still your own person, and have the ability to develop who you become. Your mom needs to wake up, smell the coffee and be a parent, not a piece of crap. In the states people go to jail for acting this way. That's where they belong.
Its my hope you'll be able to overcome this and have a successful and fulfilling adult life. Tell your sister, if she's going to shack up with someone, get their own shack.
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