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writes:Hey guys (aunts!),A few months ago I broke up with my boyfriend, and then a few months after that a guy who I got to uni with broke up with his girlfriend too (except his break up was really complicated etc.) Anyway, basically we weren't really great friends at uni or anything, but one day I saw him leaving class early, looking really upset, so I told him to give me a call if he wanted to talk. Basically we kind of helped each other out, and now we're really good friends. We spend a lot of time together now, playing old school Nintendo, walking our collective dogs and watching DVDs or whatever. I mentioned it to another friend, and he said that he was really glad for me - at which point I became worried that from his perspective (I'm VERY sure I'm not interested) he might be/become interested. Is there anyway I nip this early in the bud, apart from bluntly affirming we're "just friends"?!HELP!!!mervy
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2009): Hi
Yeah, and you might want to treat him with the casual ease that suggests that you have zero interest in him, such as make it a point of being very casual with him and treat him like you would any other friend. Having gone through an excruciating break up, perhaps he too is worrying about the same thing, like, how does he convince you that you are "jsut frineds"! Basically, treat him with the ease and familiarity of a friend, and he will understand. Besides, until he mentions to you even casually or shows signs of being attracted to you, you've got little to worry, right?
SO, take care ;)
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reader, mervy +, writes (6 October 2009):
mervy is verified as being by the original poster of the question Hey thanks for your input,
good idea - i'm gonna start right away.
ta
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reader, sunnycomet  +, writes (6 October 2009):
 Keep reminding him you two are just friends.
For example, your such a good friend, I'm glad were friends, you have been such a helpful friend...etc.
Good Luck!
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