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*utelilgreeneyedsweetheart09
writes:There's this guy at my school that I really like. Whenever we try to talk to each other we get nervous. I get sweaty between my legs and I feel a yearning for him in my clit and vagina. What's going on? Am i ready for sex?
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reader, DIE-romantic.  +, writes (18 February 2009):
 It all depends on you sweetie, if you have sex now and it doesn't work out and nothing comes of it, you may regret losing your virginity at such an early stage. You may wish that you saved it for someone more special and for when you're in a stable relationship. But if you feel you are ready and your certain that's what you want to do, then go for it.Hope my advise has helped :)x
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2009): You're still a young kitten. I remember wanting what 'everyone' else was having, but kept it in the back of my mind to enjoy 'someday'. Whatever happend to the wonder of a 1st kiss? Give yourself some time to discover these new feelings and emotions. So many times girls your age have sex and deep down it didn't 'feel' right because something was missing. Ask yourself what you Really want before you give your body away. That's really important.
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reader, AgonyUncleDan +, writes (18 February 2009):
 Hi,
You need to feel comfortable around the person and who they are.
When i first had sex (I'm only 17 mind you) i felt completely comfortable with my now fiance, and she was the same. It was a very relaxed environment and it was more pleasurable like that.
I think you should wait till your older and more responsible before you have sex. Explore your own body first before a boy comes along and does something you can't reverse.
- AgonyUncleDan
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2009): Hi cutelilgreeneyedsweetheart09,
I think that's still relative young, almost :) 15, but who am I to tell you that you better wait a little.
I would advise you to follow the sequence: first becoming an excellent kisser, then the handwork and after you are familiar with this than the real thing.
These days you see often the opposite, that girls/boys loose their virginity even before they are even able to kiss a bit sensual.
Take care
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reader, cutelilgreeneyedsweetheart09 +, writes (18 February 2009):
cutelilgreeneyedsweetheart09 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI am almost 15. I have prepared myself mentally.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2009): dear cutelilgreeneyedsweetheart09,You are between 13-15, are you just 13 or nearly 16 because this makes a big difference to me.Just 13, you are far to young! When I was 13-16, I was getting a hard penis when I was walking on the street and seeing a beautiful girl, to give you an idea, but this didn't mean that I was ready for sex.Do not see sex as a consumer article because your body is ready, but enjoy your feelings and learn to control them. First fall in love and kiss and do other nice things together and when you feel really in love and feel that your bf has the same feelings and can wait for you until you are really ready. Kissing you can do with many guys, but having sex is having a impact (even more for women than for men).So to summarize, your feelings are very normal, but control them till you are really in love and feel that your bf is really in deep love with you.Only combine sex with love and protection is selfevident.Explore yourself and stay with kissing and cuddling till you are ready. That's my advise.Hope my answer could give you something to think about.
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reader, Tomas +, writes (18 February 2009):
Your body will be able to have sex long before your mind/emotions will be ready for sex. It sounds like your body is staring to respond sexually.
Your body's reaction is letting you know that guys exist. This gets you interested in figuring our what guys are like (they're getting the same feeling or worse/better), what dating is like (obsessively learning to judge everyone's motives), how relationships work (verrrry complicated), how your body works (very fun), diseases and pregnancy (not fun), on and on. It makes you want to kiss and touch, and will eventually make some guy seem like complete magic, which can lead to trouble if you don't understand how overwhelming the impulses you are starting to feel can become, and the types of problems and dangers that you might run in to.
Sounds like you are at the beginning of the road. Take your time, pay attention, learn, and be careful.
best of luck
ps since everyone else will say it - and be right - no, you're not really ready for sex (with someone else) yet :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2009): You might be sexually aroused, but that doesn't mean you're mentally ready for sex. You should only have sex if you are mentally and emotionally ready to have sex. If you choose to, remember to use protection.
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