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writes:here goes I'm a man I've been married for 11 yrs. and the problem is i'm seeing someone else right now and i believe i'm starting to fall in love with this women i have 2 kids and a house and am having serious considerations to ending my loveless marraige and being with the women , because i don't love my wife anymore , i'm falling in love with the other women. and no there is no sex even involved yet . i'm not young i'm 40 . Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2007): When you married you vowed for better or worse. You have no right to divorce your partner unless they cheat on you, its that simple. If you don't love your wife maybe its because its being over shadowed by your relationship with this other woman. Stop cheating on her and be honest with your wife about your " loveless " relationship. Maybe she will have some suggestions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2007): If you really are in a loveless marriage there's little point in continuing to live in it, and the best thing for all concerned would be to end it.
It's very easy to think that the grass is greener on the other side of the fence, but this is rarely the case. Remember that first flush of lust when you got together with a new woman? And how it tails off in time? And how everything settles down and becomes a lot less exciting? Just bear that in mind before you leap out of the frying pan and into the fire.
My advice? Divorce first and live on your own for a while before embarking on another relationship. The new woman might find you less exciting once you're free and single. She'll feel she's the winner in the competition for your affections and might just start looking for a fresh challenge once all the excitement of sneaking off for a quickie has worn off.
There's a world of difference between having an affair with someone and living with them.
Phil
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reader, leonard j, Douglas  +, writes (22 December 2007):
How does one fall out of love? Easy question, You never were in love in the first place. Like most of us men,you fell into Lust,and like lots of men, we call that lust love. To receive love you must first-off be able to give love. It appears that you can't give that in your marriage now, So what makes you think that you'll be able to do so now? with someone else in your life and in your arms
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