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writes:My girlfriend split with me this year after 3 years together. Since then, things I used to enjoy, I don't enjoy the same anymore. Example; Somehow, before my ex met me, she had never seen the film "The Nightmare Before Christmas". Whereas I saw it when it first came out in 1993 when I was 5 years old. Since she left me, I can't help but think of her anytime I see something that reminds me of her.I have similar feelings about shows like Family Guy, South park and The Young Ones. It's terrible because I know that there is little chance that she thinks of me when she see's those shows and films, because she has gotten through are break up much, much better than I have.Is this normal? Anybody else felt this? What can I do to avoid feeling this way? I want to enjoy my favourite films and shows again without her creeping into my head anytime I try to watch them. Please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2007): It will all get easier in time. Dont try to rush things though. I think you will be able to watch these things in the future but i bet it is when you meet someone else and you can then enjoy them in a different way with them. There are still tunes now that send my head reeling back to the past but that is so normal. Let time heal your wounds and i bet you are back there watching your favs in the future with someone who you so rightly deserve. but take each day as it comes, and you will get through all of this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2007): Hi, sorry you are going through this horrible pain. Yes, what you are feeling is completely normal. After 3 years together I would be surprised if its just films and tv shows that you watched together which upset you, after my split from a 4 year relationship I can't avoid walking past little cafes, restaurants, shops, etc. we used to go to.And it really hurts. i live in a small town so its not like I can take a different route to avoid going past these places. I don't know how you can avoid these feelings except by not watching these shows. but then perhaps by watching them it will be less painful as time passes. that old cliche "time heals", which i personally am sick of hearing, nonetheless seems to be an unfortunate truth. sorry i can't help more, just wanted to let you know your feelings of loss are very normal indeed. Hope time will do its trick for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2007): I am going through the exact same thing - all i keep hearing from people close to me is that it takes time. Doesn't help in the mean time though... its really tough. my boyfriend left me only 3 weeks ago and i still have trouble sleeping in my (was our) bed. For the first week i had to sleep on the couch. god i hope it gets easier.
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