A
male
age
26-29,
*iscord
writes:You are 27After 6 months you cannot forget about her. You are learning Korean and plan on visiting Korea because you have been inspired by your emotions to do so. You try to convince yourself that this is not obsessionYou know you will never have her.It hurts Reply to this Question |
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female
reader, Lola1  + ♥, writes (4 November 2009):
 If I were 27 and in those shoes, I would STOP learning Korean and immersing myself in whatever would remind me of her.
I would VERY consciously and deliberately work to focus my efforts and thoughts on things that build me up as a whole person by myself and realize that it very well COULD be an obsession; that if it isn't, it soon will be.
Good luck.
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female
reader, Klara  + ♥, writes (3 November 2009):
what do you do?
you tell your closest friends the situation..you open up about it instead of festering this secret love and bathing in it.
you tell them about her-that you miss her, you think about her always, you want to let it go as you know it will not work, that she will meet someone else that maybe she has moved on and after months it has only got more obsessive for you - not less.
You tell them that you need help to see this rationally and to stop imagining and wishfully and secretly telling yourself that you still have a chance. by speaking to someone you put the light on it so that you can see it clearly- or they can help you to.
you are obsessed. you 'know' you wont have her but you dont really do you. You hope , you pine.
It happens to the best of us but then you meet someone so much better for you- as it works and then you realise you wasted so much time - so many hours-months -years on that person in your head instead of living !
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