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writes:my girlfriend broke up with me just over a month ago. she said she wanted to be 'best friends' but it doesn't seem that way at all it seems to me that she doesn't want anything to do with me. it hurts so bad.i don't have a clue whats going on in her mind. i can't talk to her about it because it pushes her further away. she doesn't try and get in contact with me at all yet when we do talk shes really nice to me. i don't understand whats keeping her distant. is it me?im fighting a losing battle here. has anyone got any advice?thanks.
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reader, TinnyMagoo +, writes (11 December 2007):
 Just been through a similiar thing myself.
I think bqagirl2692 is right - it's probably just her way of trying to get over you.
She's being nice to you when you speak because she obviously doesn't want to hurt you anymore than you are from the split.
Doing the no-contact is a way of moving on, and it looks like this is what she's doing.
Like you, I tried remaining friends with my ex, but the reality is, when you still love someone it doesn't always work out that way.
Could be that your ex is also taking time out to think about what she wants. Best thing here is to just give her some space and start thinking about yourself.
I wish you well with it.
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reader, bqagirl2692  +, writes (10 December 2007):
 Seems to me that her ignoring you is just her way of getting over you quicker. Maybe she needs to get over the fact that she may still have feelings for you, therefore she is distant from you so that her feelings wont take over her head. Give her some time. If she wants to be friends then let her come to you rather than you after her. She'll come around. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2007): Its the hardest thing for a guy to move on after a relationship especially if you really like the girl. But she broke up with you for a reason. She is doing what is best for her. You need to pick yourself up and be her friend. If you try going back to what you use to have with her its going to push you farther and farther away. Be her friend for awhile and do something positive in your life so maybe she will see that you changed. Thats when you have to question if you want to change yourself for her, or if nothings wrong with you and its her. dont drool over her or you will lose her for good.
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