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36-40,
anonymous
writes:We have been in love and had a wonderful loving and caring relationship and got married for over two years now and almost out of the blue couple months ago my hubby said that he does not have any feelings for me anymore and does not want to be with me. we spend almost 3 weeks apart and then he told me that he wants to give it another try. meanwhile now we live together but he feels distant and away from me, kind of cold and does not seem to care of or when I am around. He says that he waits for the time to tell him if he can be with me, but i am not sure what exactlty he is waiting for and what time will tell him. i still love him as much as before but he stopped calling me honey and has not had said that he loves me ever since the break up. I pray and wait every day that he will become a bit more interested and affectionate towards me, but so far it has not happened. I am scared that one day he will just break it off completely with me. Is there anything i could do or how to tell what is on his mind? What exactly he wants the time to tell him? Can he get the loving feelings for me back? Reply to this Question
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reader, tmwolfe +, writes (24 November 2008):
Many men lose interest when things are to easy or you are to accomodating to them. In other words the more you show them love, devotion, and complete commitment, they lose interest. Do you have your own hobbies, interests, activities, friends. In other words stop worrying about making him happy and make yourself happy. He will respect you more and may rekindle his feelings, when he sees a more independent side of you. If not, MOVE ON. Do not let him waste your time or make you miserable. He is the one that does not understand love and commitment and how to treasure you. Remind him that there are many more men in the sea and he can be replaced if he does not appreciate what he has!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2008): Thank you for the answer, but I have a feeling that even though he said he wanted to give it another try, he really does not show it in his actions and the other day when i asked why he says because he still does not care about me... we have been "trying" how he called it for about 2 months now but there is no improvement and he acts the same as if he does not want to be with me any more... Why is he doing that? If he does not care ( he does not do anything to prove me wrong) then why he lied about trying?
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