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writes:What is chemistry? Examples?Can it be developed or is it a first instant gut feeling? Is chemistry mutual or can one person feel it stronger than the other? Would you break up with someone if you had immediate, intense chemistry with someone else (assuming you know they feel it too)? Reply to this Question
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (21 November 2008):
 I think "anon" has it right, chemistry is often confused with lust and infatuation. I think chemistry takes time to figure out, and is really two parts - mental connection and physical. Does he tell the kind of jokes you laugh about? When you talk, does it just seem to flow? Do you "click"? And then, the physical chemistry!! Do you click in the sack? Do you get that tingle in your spine when you're close?
When you're single and having fun, you can kind of pick one or the other. But if you're in a relationship and considering breaking it apart for someone else, you better have both kinds of chemistry with them!
I hope that made sense... good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2008): I think "chemistry" is often confused with physical attraction, but it can evolve into something deeper, given the chance. However, I don't believe that it's fair to break off with someone on the basis of something that is "immediate and intense". It may just be a fleeting physical desire and you may have regrets later on. Try to be more objective in assessing the qualities of one person vs. the other. The basis really is how strongly you can feel for one person over the other, that you would want to spend the rest of your life with him/her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2008): It could develop. It's attraction between two people. Just having chemistry with someone else wouldn't be enough reason to split with someone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2008): Chemistry can be confused with Lust or Infatuation. If you don't have love then it won't last.
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