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writes:I am a virgin and i really like this guy and i want to make the move on him but i am just scared becuase i don't know what i am doing and what if i am going to do it wrong, i would feel stupid.
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reader, chlez83  +, writes (29 November 2007):
You make a move on him or entice him to make a move on you? Just chill out for a moment and think twice.You are one of the most rarest species on earth,a virgin,and deserve to lose it to a very special person.Take time to know the guy and see where things go from there.You may live to regret rushing into wooing this guy over.The longer you know the guy the more confidence you'll have of dating him but the quicker you rush into things,the faster you may regret.Please do ask yourself as well if you are ready to lose your virginity to him and if you are ready for a commitment or just wana experiment and have fun.
Take care.
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reader, laurastorm  +, writes (29 November 2007):
i think that you need to take things slow if you are a virgin, you need to tell him how you feel and see if he feels the same about you. if he does then you can get to now each other and then see where things go from there.
if you need any more help please dont hesitate to contact me.
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reader, Namatjira  +, writes (29 November 2007):
Hi,
Congratulations on actually thinking about this. Too many people these days just let their hormones do all the talking and don't stop to think.
Now I am not one of these people that thinks you should save it all for marriage but I do think that casual sex is also not a good idea. Too many risks in our modern world.
Just consider the following:
a) You want your first time to be special and memorable. The gift of your virginity is really special and obviously a once in a lifetime opportunity. Is this guy special enough for such a gift?
b) Does he know how to treat a woman with respect and care? If you find that you are doing all the running and he is just letting you be his skivvy, then it is unlikely that he will consider your physical and emotional needs in this relationship and your first experience could quite likely be disappointing for you.
c) Do not worry about how much you know or do not know. The important thing is that you should take your time. Your first time should never be rushed or a quick fumble in the back seat of a car. The setting should be right and encourage romantic thoughts and feelings. These will help you and he to feel relaxed and in the right mood.
d) No matter how much you like this guy, and even if he says he has never done it before, DO take precautions. The health risks are otherwise totally too much. Also it is known that a very large number of women get pregnant their first time. Perhaps this is because the body knows when you are ready to get pregnant and helps to get you in the mood. A woman's libido is often higher when she is ready to conceive.
e) Do not have expectations that it will be thrilling and exciting. Of course we would all like it to be but it often isn't. Many times it is messy and unexpected. Just go with your own inner voice. And remember, even if you have said yes to him ad have started, you can still stop. If he respects you he will also stop.
Lastly, if you have any doubts, then the only right thing to do is to wait. there will always be another time and another person. You should only do this if it is what you want to do and not because he or other friends expect it.
Good luck girl
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