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writes:Ok im not quite sure what to do, my gf is a 18 im 21, and we basically had it worked out so that i would put things on hold until she finished college so we could live together and she got her education, then she would take a year out so i could finish what i need to finish and we could carry on living as a couple,then wed move to wherever she wanted to go to uni.But now shes just dropped the bombshell that she doesnt want to do this and is planning on moving away to go to uni and i just feel like ive wasted the last 3 years waiting for her to sort herself out to sort myself out. I kinda feel let down, even though i know its not her fault, i feel more let down by myself for going along with the plan thinking it would be this way. I just dunno if it's gonna work out when she moves away and i know it would be me doing all the running around. Reply to this Question
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reader, lovelife1437  +, writes (5 January 2010):
It takes 2 to tango but plans do change as time goes by. It's ideal to make plans for the future but it's more important to focus on the present. Since she's still going through school, don't make any concrete plan and enjoy your relationship at the pace that it's going and maybe you'll feel less burdened without the idea of "doing all the running around." It's not an issue until it's made into an issue. You haven't wasted your last 3 years, if anything, you obviously like her alot and it shows. When in a relationship, there is no wasting of time, there's a reason for everything so just hang in there if you love her and see where things will go. Again, enjoy your relationship at its present and it's good to have an idea of the future but don't be too hard on yourself or her. Good Luck! :-)
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