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writes:i was at a party last night and there was a really attractive girl there. the problem was that i couldn't get the courage to ask her out, even with a bit of alcohol down me.Anyway it's too late now to ask her out but I just need some advice. What good first liners can i say to ask a girl out. Secondly what are good places to go to on a first date? Reply to this Question |
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni didn't actually mean one liners, i meant things to say to break the ice
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reader, niceguy07  +, writes (12 August 2007):
 hey
humor is usually a good start, but try not to be completely drunk when approaching a girl. it would show just a little bit more interest from you if u went up to a girl with your first drink in hand and then once you break the ice, the two of you can begin conversating over drinks. as for one liners, the women are right, they dont work. be confident when u approach, introduce yourself and ask her name.
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reader, RosesAreRed +, writes (12 August 2007):
 hierm u cud take her to the pictures, and then go for a romantic dinner for two, thats a lovely first date to show someone u like them, give you a chance to talk over dinner and get to know each other better.And as for a chat up line, don't use any, they never work on a woman, just simply talk to her, and get in to a conversation, then say i'd like to get to know you more, could I have your number, then thats when you arrange a date, then that way, you can text and phone each other.
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reader, hlskitten + ♥, writes (12 August 2007):
 Hi
Not too sure us girls like one liners these days. We much prefer the direct approach.
Just be brave & strike up a convo about ahything at all! If she likes you she wont remember what you said first anyway trust me hehe
Good first dates i would say would be the local. Or out to dinner if shes not too shy.
Not the cinema though, you cant talk in there!
Or even a cafe if its during the day.
I would avoid clubbing & noisy pubs too. For the same reason as above.
If you have a nice canal near you thats got a park & pavillion in the summer thats a good place.
Good luck
C xxxx
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reader, sparky +, writes (12 August 2007):
Dear Anonymous,great question. I used to be quite shy, but in the past 10 years (I'm now 33 and happily engaged), I became much more successful in engaging women in conversation and asking them out. The second best first-line is always, "Hi, I'm ***. What's your name?" It sounds generic, but women always always find it genuine. Trust me, a quality woman can sniff out a pick up line a mile away, and it's a huge turnoff for her.First best first-line is something spur of the moment clever, that puts the situation in context and makes pleasant, non-sleazy conversation. Like notice what she's doing/watching/listening/dancing to. Introduce yourself, and say something that relates to that "thing." First, is how you enter the room. Be confident, not cocky. Hold your chin up, chest out. Move slowly. Pause when you enter a room, and casually look around the crowd... but don't look like you're surveying for hot women... they can tell! Just look around like you're trying to find your friend. When you do approach, keep your chin up and your eyes softly fixed on her (avoid the hard stare, it's creepy), but give her a soft, confident gaze that tells her you're interested in her, not anyone else. Walk up confidently, like you couldn't care less in the world if she kicked dirt in your face, and introduce yourself... YOUR NAME FIRST. And then let the conversation go of its own accord. If it stalls, take note of something around you.Don't talk about yourself too much ... that's what every shmoe does, and women find it self-aggrandizing. Ask her questions about herself. Let her talk about herself. Keep the focus on her. Remember, build attraction first, always first, and do that by being interested, but not too readily eager. Be confident and avoid "one-liners." Good luck!
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reader, claire_A +, writes (12 August 2007):
heynext time if you are at a party just try and start making small conversation and charm her a bit by giving her compliments and offer to get her a drink, just talk about interests and general stuff and if you two have nothing in common then don't ask her out but if you're getting along with her really well then just ask her if she'd like to go out with you sometime and take her out and if you get to know her before you ask her out then you could think of somewhere to take her.If not try taking her out for a meal or ice skating. Try to avoid going to the cinema as you won't be able to sit and talk to her throughout the film. But I hope it all goes well.
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