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writes:Hey everyone, my girlfriend broke up with me a little over two months ago. Im a lot better than what I was after it happened. She wont talk to me now for some reason. I would just like to get a better idea what goes through a girls mind after they break up with someone. Do they end up regretting it down the road, think its easier to not talk? Im trying to get a better understanding of whats going on but she wont talk to me. The last time I did I just sent a message saying that I didnt hate her and didnt want her to hate me. I said that Ill always care about her and be there if she needs someone and she never wrote anything back. Can anyone help?
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (22 March 2010):
 I am sorry for what you are going through now. My sympathies to you .
Life is not always rosy and there are up's and down's .This door may have closed on you but another door will open soon.
You have to accept reality and move on.
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reader, Sledsik +, writes (21 March 2010):
Sledsik is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey guys thanks for your help. Its been soo hard when I do think of her. We actually talked on the phone a couple days ago and talked about why she broke up with me. She said that it seemed like we were getting to be more like friends instead of boyfriend/ girlfriend and that she thought our relationship was stuck and wasnt going anywhere. I knew that was happening at the time and tried my hardest to get it good again but she didnt want to try. She started to get depressed half way through our relationship and said that she didnt know why. I guess I just feel like I failed and feel really bad right now and dont know what to do. Im tired of being sad.
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (16 March 2010):
Here is a good article about what happens when a couple breaks up.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Relationship_breakup
Just give her some time and space . If you are meant to be together, you will come back again . If not , you will have to be realistic and move on.
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reader, Sledsik +, writes (16 March 2010):
Sledsik is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI never hurt her. The reason she broke up with me is that I was smothering her and think that I did not trust her. She was also getting ready to start a 4 year college after being in a 2 year college. I just wish I knew whats going through her mind because this just isnt making sense to me. She even said that I was the best boyfriend that I could have been to anybody and that I was absolutely amazing, then she said she just couldnt figure it out for herself. Why doesnt this add up?
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reader, Sledsik +, writes (16 March 2010):
Sledsik is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI never hurt her. The reason she broke up with me is that I was smothering her and think that I did not trust her. She was also getting ready to start a 4 year college after being in a 2 year college. I just wish I knew whats going through her mind because this just isnt making sense to me. She even said that I was the best boyfriend that I could have been to anybody and that I was absolutely amazing, then she said she just couldnt figure it out for herself. Why doesnt this add up?
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reader, Hard_decision  +, writes (15 March 2010):
I guess it depends on why you broke up. If she broke up with you because you hurt her in some way, then ofcourse she wouldnt want to speak to you because having no contact does help someone going through heartache... But if she broke up with you with no explanation as to why, then maybe she was hiding something all along and feels by ignoring you she wont have to confess the real reason for the break up in fear of hurting you... Relationships are wonderful things that can turn into tragic experiences when both people arent open honest and commited.
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reader, Melissa.Xx  +, writes (15 March 2010):
Well it depends. She may be wishing she didnt break up with you or she might think it ended badly and doesnt know if you two are still all right to be mates. Girls are always a mystery. But I expect all girls think boys are a mystery too. If it helps you go up and speak to her and try and be friendly.
Hope this helps.
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reader, anysecondnow  +, writes (15 March 2010):
When you break up with someone, you feel really bad about it cause you know you are hurting them. But once you get the point where you decide to do it, you want it to be over and final.
I think she is being a coward (something we guys are usually even better at). She just doesn't want to deal with it.
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reader, bucket1 +, writes (15 March 2010):
Girls are very complicated. SO, there isn't a specific explination to why. In my experience, if i'd broke up with someone who was upsetting me, i wouldn't want to speak to them. It just depends exactly on what the reason was. Either that or i'd turn bitter towards them. Some people do regret their choices, but she wouldn't just ignore you if she thought she was in with another chance. Girls don't want the 'lets be friends' straight away either, we're a very sensitive bunch! Just give her time, if she wants to be friends with you, she will be. But she probably needs space to think about what's happened, and what she sees you as now.
Hope I helped. I'm sure loads of other people can help you out too.
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