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anonymous
writes:We're in a long distance relationship and get together a few days each month. The week leading up to our visit, she'll express how turned on she is for me and can't wait to mess around. But when we do see each other in person, her hornyness is not nearly as strong. She's even admitted that her sex drive rages when I'm not around. Sometimes it is strong for her when we are in person, but alot of times when we're together she doesn't even want to have sex. I don't know if it's a physical thing (I don't physically turn her on) or a mental thing (she loves the idea of sex more than the actual thing) or both?? I'd be interested to hear thoughts or insights as to why this may be the case and how to overcome it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the response. I suppose I should clarify my situation better though. It's not that she's not sexually attracted to me in person, it's just that she seems to be horny more often when I'm not around (like everyday), whereas when we see each other for say 3 days straight, there's maybe only one time where she's really in the mood. Also, sex is definitely not the only reason we see each other, and she knows that, that's never been an issue or even brought up. In fact, I don't bring up the subject of sex very often anyway. That being said, your response could be true that she might be horny but not really for me.
I'm interested to hear other thoughts as well.
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reader, Emma1987 +, writes (15 August 2014):
I think you need to ask her what are the things that she likes to do in the sex. I'm sure you tries to make her feel good but maybe she wants something else. Just like my boyfriend I love to make love to him and I miss him all the time but when I see him I feel nothing because he doesn't kiss my body and do stuff I like. So I think you should ask her what she needs you to do for her. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2014): She may not want sex to be the only reason you come to see her. If you bring up the subject of sex all the time; I guess she might be telling you what you want to hear. Actions speak louder than words. She might be horny, but apparently it's not really for you.
If she doesn't seem sexually attracted to you, move on.
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