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writes:I am very confused, please help. What do you do when you find yourself in a situation whereby you feel you have to give the marriage your best shot but do not have any feelings for your spouse? I feel we should work on our issues, go through counselling with the hope that things will work through. I want to do this not because I still love my spouse but out of some sort of obligation that I can not just throw in the towel and also because of the two boys that are a product of this marriage. I do not have any feelings for my husband anymore, I an no longer in love with him. Our friends, families, kids and the general public out there including the church members think we have the perfect marriage yet it is not the case in reality. Somehow, I feel the need to keep the marriage going for other people's sake and I do not think that is the right way to go. What do I do under these circumstances? Please help. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2011): I think that you should at least give counseling a chance. It could be a short-term thing. A lot of married couples fall in and out of love. Is your husband aware of how you feel?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2011): Have compassion for yourself. People feel the practice of compassion is for others, not the self. The Dalai Lama says that's "totally a mistake."
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