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writes:OK, this is a lil long but stick with it, this is so hard for me to write, OK,I started to really like this girl in college, we got on really well and we're close very quickly, we would talk for hours everyday about anything, and I told her I liked her and wanted to go out with her, she said she talk to me next time she saw me(the next day. She tole me that she only wanted to be friends still, which was fine, then she told me about someone she did like and thought she liked her cause of all these things the girl did. I thought she was right and agreed to help her, but we ended up getting closer and I fell in love with her, I told her this and she said she was flattered but didn't feel the same way.This was about 5-6 months ago, and I still cant get rid of my feelings for her, if anything there stronger, I just love her so much and just want to be with her, she has told me that it'll never happen cause she just doesn't feel anything like that for me, and isn't attracted to me in anyway, I feel like I'm going through hell all the time, and don't know what to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2008): I know the feeling bro and its hard. I also know its hard to move on, since people tell me this all the time and I try and try but everything just fails and leads back to this same one girl. The one girl that picked me up when I felt like shit, who helped me through, told me she loved me.. just "not in that way". She then got with my best friend, and I didnt speak to her properly for months. She didn't need me anymore so it seemed.
The best advice I can offer is to try your very best to build some confidence and try find another girl. Its real hard but I guess its the only way, the more you think about her the more its just gonna keep hurting.
I just hope you dont end up in the position I have found myself in, being that I love her so much.. and its just wrong.
Good luck bro, I hope things work out for you
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reader, speedcat  +, writes (26 February 2008):
You will find that someone in time. You deserve to be loved back as much as you love that person. Dont settle for less. Have faith. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYea, I know ur right, its just that I couyld see myself as being perfect for her and I know she's perfect for me, its just so hard moving on, when I have no one to help mend my broken Heart
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reader, speedcat +, writes (25 February 2008):
All I can say to you is "life is to short to love someone who doesnt love you back".
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reader, guillaume + ♥, writes (25 February 2008):
 Hi,
In short, there is nothing you can do.....she doesn't feel the same for you and that is what she said, plain and simple. That's it.
For you personally, you really need to move on..I know it's very hard, I've been there and i dare say a lot of other people reading this have too. Don't keep trying, she will only become more distant. The best thing you can do is to stop the affection or any plans you have towards her. Carry on with your life now slowly and begin to build your life without this lady in mind. Best wishes, I'm saying this advice in a friendly way so please understand that. G.
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