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What do I do, I love her so much but she doesn't love me...

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Question - (25 February 2008) 8 Answers - (Newest, 18 April 2009)
A male United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

OK, this is a lil long but stick with it, this is so hard for me to write,

OK,I started to really like this girl in college, we got on really well and we're close very quickly, we would talk for hours everyday about anything, and I told her I liked her and wanted to go out with her, she said she talk to me next time she saw me(the next day. She tole me that she only wanted to be friends still, which was fine, then she told me about someone she did like and thought she liked her cause of all these things the girl did. I thought she was right and agreed to help her, but we ended up getting closer and I fell in love with her, I told her this and she said she was flattered but didn't feel the same way.

This was about 5-6 months ago, and I still cant get rid of my feelings for her, if anything there stronger, I just love her so much and just want to be with her, she has told me that it'll never happen cause she just doesn't feel anything like that for me, and isn't attracted to me in anyway, I feel like I'm going through hell all the time, and don't know what to do.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2009):

yea its easy for u guys to say move on .....but what if one doesnt want to move on..thrs only one girl and i want to try my best for gettin her into my life ..i cannot thnk of someone else

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A male reader, Andy09 United Kingdom +, writes (16 April 2009):

I know excatly what your going through, about a year and a half ago I realised I feel in love with my best friend, unfortunately, she says she doesen't feel the same, and can't see us having a future. The thought of never being able to hold her or kiss her tears my heart apart every time I think of it. And to make things worse the ex boyfriend she had (Who was a complete waste of space and did not deserve her in my opinion), has gotten her pregnant and wants nothing to do with the baby, I feel that now is my chance to show her I'm the one for her, is this a good or a bad idea?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2009):

i to have the same problem. theres this girl i really love. but my brother(friend) loves her just the same. i want him to have her but when i listened to her song Crush by David Archuleta, which is a good song listen to it, it just broke my heart that she has no feelings for me and that i want my brother to have her. i think about her just about everyday. i hear and see her everywhere i go. what do i do? go for her, move on, or...

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A reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2008):

I couldn't agree more with all of these posts, I have just gone through similar. I truly love a girl and she is with another guy, who in my opinion does not deserve her. Just to give you an idea of how I feel, they became intimately involved within 4 weeks of meeting, which she started bragging to me about saying things like she was a "dirty b*tch" in bed. 4 WEEKS!? Compared to my 9 months of knowing her and the best i got was a strip game, it has ended up destroying our friendship (we were true friends) and its taking time for me to come to terms with what’s happened. It's nice to know that I’m not the only one this has happened to, I know that it will be hard and will take time, broken hearts don't mend easy. Take comfort in this though: The fact that you are reading this and are no doubt agreeing with it and probably relating to it, means that you have a heart to love someone else, someone who deserves you. There is someone for everyone but you will have to be patient, it takes time. Of this I’m sure. The very best of luck to all who read this. M

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2008):

I know the feeling bro and its hard. I also know its hard to move on, since people tell me this all the time and I try and try but everything just fails and leads back to this same one girl. The one girl that picked me up when I felt like shit, who helped me through, told me she loved me.. just "not in that way". She then got with my best friend, and I didnt speak to her properly for months. She didn't need me anymore so it seemed.

The best advice I can offer is to try your very best to build some confidence and try find another girl. Its real hard but I guess its the only way, the more you think about her the more its just gonna keep hurting.

I just hope you dont end up in the position I have found myself in, being that I love her so much.. and its just wrong.

Good luck bro, I hope things work out for you

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A female reader, speedcat United States +, writes (26 February 2008):

You will find that someone in time. You deserve to be loved back as much as you love that person. Dont settle for less. Have faith. Good luck.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2008):

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Yea, I know ur right, its just that I couyld see myself as being perfect for her and I know she's perfect for me, its just so hard moving on, when I have no one to help mend my broken Heart

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A female reader, speedcat United States +, writes (25 February 2008):

All I can say to you is "life is to short to love someone who doesnt love you back".

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