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writes:we have been together for 1 and a half now, by now i know when he is upset with me. today he is in other one of those sarcastic moods, yesterday we had a little bit of a dispute, he would normally tell me if he is going to the race track or if he is at a friends house, yesterday i complete freaked out when he said he was at a friends house and had already been there the whole morning. i did apologise for what i said to him over the phone and felt really bad about it. today he is not talking to me at all. i have sent him a message if he is upset with me which he said he is not, round about lunch time we phone each other and today was my turn, i called but he never answered, so i sent him a message to ask him if he was busy or at a client, which he replied, no im enjoying the sunshine..lol.. the sarcastic line again, when he does this i know there is something wrong. the last time he done this was when i came across a few messages from another girl that mistook him for someone she knew, the message were not so great... it really hurts and everytime i bring up how i feel he tells me im worried about nothing and i need to relax... i really dont know what to do, should i just ignore him for the rest of the day and tommorrow, turn my phone off and see what happens by wednesday? Reply to this Question
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reader, Jason32477  +, writes (20 July 2009):
 Acting negatively to a negative reaction is a natural impulse but more often than not is the wrong thing to do.It only creates more tension and hard feelings.I don`t suggest you call him but don`t ignore him in turn.There is a chance your man is being unfaithful but I don`t really see that from your description.You have already told him your sorry.Maybe now you can show him?Maybe a good home cooked meal by candle light or some other romantic setting.After a year and a half of being together its easy to become to complacent.Try to liven things up and add some excitement back into the relationship.There is no need to continue to apologize.Just show him how much you love him.When he gets some days off make plans to go out together.Try to put yourself in his shoes.Then ask yourself what you would want from your partner in that situation.Something is troubling him.Try talking to see if you can find out what that is,and let him know where your coming from.
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reader, Your friend  +, writes (20 July 2009):
 If this is part of a pattern then not only will it not get better but it will get worse, it may be time to learn to live without him.
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