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writes:A couple of years back my ex left me and our kids to move in with another guy. It was pretty messy and she hasn't really had anything to do with the kids since. Now she's emailed me asking me to meet with her to talk and I really don't know what to do. Her thing with the guy she left me for ended about a year ago but she's living with another boyfriend now. A friend of mine suggested she might want to see the kids again but three of them are teenagers so if she did want to see them she could easily do it without going through me. I know they're not really interested in seeing her anyway. Part of me says I should go to see what she wants but I've moved on and to be honest, if I ever see her again it'd be too soon. What could she possibly want from me after all this time?
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (28 September 2009):
She screwed up, by the sound of it, and regrets not knowing her kids. All she has done has emailed you to talk. Nothing more. You've moved on, which is great. I would meet her in a public place (cafe or something) to see what she has to say. The chances are she wants to be involved with your kids. She is their mother, so meet with her and see what she wants. But make it clear that you've moved on (if she hints at a reunion).
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2009): We were never married and I know it's not a money thing because she has a lot of it and I definitely don't lol. I guess I'm just worried because she's caused a lot of trouble for us in the past so I'd rather she was as far out of my life as possible
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2009): The two of you have moved on with you lives that is good,but you must put your kids first,maybe she just want to see the kids and she wants your approval to see them .She does not want to do things behind your back.
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reader, Jayney Y  +, writes (28 September 2009):
 Maybe she feels bad about her actions and wants forgiveness. Or maybe she wants money. If you're not divorced from her and you owned a house together, etc, I'd guess it's the second one. Good luck :)
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