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writes:This summer, I will have summer school three days a week and work on the other days. My work requires a minimum of 5 shifts so I will be very busy. Basically the most convenient way to spend time with my boyfriend is during my summer breaktime which is 3 hours, 3x a week. However he feels this is not enough and is upset that I can't spend more time with him. He even mentioned I should work on the same days as my school - talk about exhausting! I think he is selfish and I told him to man up. He understands but he wants to do some summer activities with me like go to the beach or theme park, but I just want to rest during the few breaks I have. What should we do? Should we compromise? Reply to this Question
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (26 May 2012):
 Well compromise is always a good thing, but in practice you are already compromising, you are basically giving all the free time you can muster, this 9 hours a week may not be much, yet they are hours you are reserving for him, not for going shopping or fixing your hairs or hanging out with your girlfriends or doing chores at home etc. Yes, sure you do it because you WANT to and it's in your own interest too, then again he should realize that you ARE hard pressed for time and you are doing the best that you can.
If he wants you to be exhausted and worn out just to make him happy, then who is the selfish one ?
Plus, come on, summer only lasts 3 MONTHS, not 3 years. You can handle it ,you'll both survive.
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