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writes: I love this girl that I want to talk to but I don't know how to approach her or what to say. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2007): very good question i think i was wvery nervous at my first kiss but after a while u get the hang of it.
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (16 March 2006):
 Start out with "hello", then introduce yourself, even if you think she already knows you.
Smile and pretend that you're really confident and happy. That will go a long way towards helping calm you and making you *act* confident and happy.
You don't have to emote all over her and tell her that she's the most beautiful woman you've ever seen, and her hair is like woven silk, etc etc. In fact, guys that start conversations with statements like those are really scary.
Make a little small talk with her. Something along the lines of how you happened to notice her, or something that you have in common, or a small anecdote about a local character in town. Something harmless and inoffensive.
Watch her reaction to what you're saying. Hopefully, she smiles and makes eye contact with you. If she does, that's a good sign. On the other hand, if she turns away, and doesn't seem to respond to what you're saying, then you should stop what you're doing.
Whatever happens, make your first conversation with her should probably last 3-5 minutes. Anything more than that is too much, too soon, since I'm assuming that this woman is pretty much a stranger to you.
In a day or two, you wave, smile and hopefully she smiles back.
You take it from there.
Remember though, just because you're smitten doesn't mean that she is, or will be. There's always an element of risk in trying to get to know someone, so be friendly, but be prepared to back off if she isn't interested.
Good luck!
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