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writes:My wife has told me she is no longer in love with me even though I love her to bits. She says it will not work, we have two kids aged 3 and 6 and I am devastated... she said there is nobody else. What can I do to show her 11 years is too much to throw away. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2009): Your wife sounds like she is unhappy, possibly she is even depressed. I would urge her to sit down and try to express what it is that she is feeling, ask her if she will go to therapy with you, ask her if she will see a doctor to check her for depression as medication could change her life and her outlook.
I would say to her that because you have two small children that will be devestated by your marriage ending, that she first needs to "earn her way out", meaning the two of you need to work on the differences and or problems and issues first as there is really more than 11 years of time at stake, their are two little children at stake.....plead with her to go to couple's therapy with you first before taking that final step out.
Take care.
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (12 January 2009):
 You can drag a horse to the watering hole ,but you can not make it drink.
First of, I'm sorry. 11 years is a lot to "just" throw away. You two need to sit down and talk. Make her express why she isn't happy with you. However, being in a relationship and being totally miserable is no way to live.
Maybe you should look around for a couples counseling and ask her to join you before she throw in the towel.If you belong to a church they might be able provide that kind of help.
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