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writes:my girlfriend broke up with me last nite. she said that she needed some time to herself, we have been together for a year and a half and never argue. she has been under alot of pressure with exams for her job aswell as family life. i love her so much and i dont want to loose her. i called her today and asked if she would be happy if we never seen or spoke to each other again and she said no and she doesnt know what she wants. i told her i would give her the space she needs and that i wouldnt call her and if she wants to call me it would be good. i love her so much and dont want to loose her. or for her to just forget about me over time. what should i do..???
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reader, m.a.t.d +, writes (21 August 2009):
m.a.t.d is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhi everyone thanks for all the advice its been really helpful. we broke up last sunday and i got a phone call from her on wednesday, she was kind of acting as if everything was fine just taking as normal telling me how work was going this week. she went on to ask me to do a job for her aunty; her aunty has my phone no. and she could have rang me instead.. we spoke about breaking up but i only wanted to talk briefly about it, she said she still does'nt know what she wants, but needs sometime to herself i said i would give her the time she wants and maybe breaking up for the time being would give us time apart to see how much we really appreciate each other.. i told her to stay in contact with me.. i myself am goin on a holiday with my friends for a week next week, i would expect to hear from her before i leave if she really does still care.. or should i try to make contact seeing as she was the first one to call since the break up.?
any more advice would be appreciated.. thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2009): Listen my friend I am 27 years old, I had 3 relationships until now the longest lasted for 3 years. What I can tell you is: if she told you that she needs some time alone than she wants to end the relationship maybe she met someone else who knows. Just forget her and move on because if she would love you, she would never tell you something like this believe me!
And one more thing, if you are able to love you will find your partner for life! I am also sure of that to!
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reader, jstdunno  +, writes (18 August 2009):
Give her space. Call her once a week tops. After a while ask her to meet for lunch/ a movie as friends to catch up. DON'T mention getting back together or put pressure on her. She may just need to prioritise her family right now,She may also if she's young be growing out of your relationship and she may want to experience more of life and not settle down. That's be tough to deal with but we've all had it happen , I've been the one who broke it off too and it's not nice to do it to the guy. It's part of life and you'll move on eventually.Either way she won't forget about you. You may not be on her mind 24/7 but most older people can remember all their previous girlfriends/boyfriends. Unless he/she is a slut but even then they'll remember the special girls/guys.
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reader, BehindThese HazelEyes +, writes (18 August 2009):
 it sounds to me as if shes just stressed and dealing with it the way she is...give her some time and space, maybe she will come around...good luck!
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reader, tennischic06 +, writes (18 August 2009):
This is always a tough situation. She is obviously stressed, and everyone responds to stress differently. When I was going through a rough time with school and family issues however, I wanted to be around the people I loved, not away from them. But like I said, everyone is different. Give it some time and give her some space. She needs to clear her head. Take this time to reflect on your relationship and assess it. If she apologizes and wants to get back together, great. . . but don't make this a habit, you don't want her to think you will always be there to come back to
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reader, EXPLICIT00 +, writes (18 August 2009):
well, the best thing for you to do right now would be to give her space and wait for her to call you. if she doesn't call for a week or 2 then call her and just ask her how shes been and how things are going. don't let her forget you love her. if she loves you too then she'll come back. its probably just due to stress anyway. don't sweat it man.
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