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*rew4047
writes:ok my girlfriend tells me I'm controlling but i cant help but do what i do i love her so much and im afraid that what i am doin is driving her away from me i just ask to know what she is doing before she does it not during n that she dont be chilling with a lot of guys i mean it might be a little demanding but i dont no i do have a short temper which makes us argue a lot when things go my way i just want to no what i can do to make our relationship work it might also help the people she hangs out with are coke heads and drug addict who live house to house with there less than a year old baby but thats besides the point i just want to know what i can do to make our happiness come to life. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2009): My dear.I've been in dat situation.U re just like my ex.He was my first bf but had dis problem.U need 2 calm down.Make her free around u not scared of u.Someday she might c dis as bondage nd want some air just lik i did.Just reduce ur temper.Listen more often.Tk her point of view more.Just change.
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reader, Mya181 +, writes (15 June 2009):
hi
i'm sorry to hear about this,
In my opinion..the best thing for u to do is sit down with ur girlfriend and chat about the issues that have aroused. You should explain how you feel and tell her you're not really all that happy with the people she's spending time with as you are scared for her wellbeing. If she's mature and willing to work things out, she will understand and perhaps try to work out a way to assure you she's safe. It's natural for you to be a little controlling but sometimes you can overdo it. If so is the case, try to give her a little more freedom, after all she is your girlfriend and you should trust her with her own freedom. Try and maybe spend a little more time alone with your girlfriend and make sure you take time out to sit and talk about your feelings and you will find it easier to talk your problems out, trying your best not to lose your tempers or shout, as this will drag your problem out and will not solve anything. Just explain your feelings and if she's really worth it and loves you enough, she will stop to take your feelings into consideration! :)
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