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writes: There's this really lush lad called Sam that was at my college, but now he's left and gone to this other college! I really really like him and I still see him around. I phone him and that, but he never knows who I am. How can I get him to notice me?? Please help me! I also get jealous when he has other girlfriends!
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reader, Lord of Skimmed Cheese +, writes (13 November 2005):
OK, the next time you see him, cross the street and begin walking with him. Ask him how is is and other things and ask whether he'd like to go for a coffee or something like that to cacth up. While your there, try and bit of light flirting, but don't come on too strong. Do the same at the coffee shop or whatever if he decides to to come. Towards the end of the meeting, say "we should do this more often" or something and try and mention or even arrange doing it again or something similar. I think you know what to do from there! Hope I could be of help.
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reader, lillaum  +, writes (12 November 2005):
 Hi there
Finding common ground is a good place to start. Don't make something up though. Dont pretend to like something that you dont just for him! he will notice you for the wrong reasons.
Stay true to who you are. He will respect you more if you dont agree with him constantly unless you really do. You mentioned that you have phoned him, have you ever ask to him to meet up with you and some of your mutual friends? If not, it is worth a go. If he say's no then it wont matter because you were going out with your friends any way.
don't be shy about talking to him, but make sure you don't pester him!
Good luck
lillaum
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reader, Forthright +, writes (12 November 2005):
You phone him but he doesn't know who you are - do you mean that you call but don't speak to him? How did you get his phone number if he doesn't know you? Be careful, it sounds like your feelings for him are making you behave a bit obsessively and if he finds out he will not be pleased.To get him to notice you, you are going to have to talk to him in person, introduce yourself. Beating around the bush, hinting and hoping will get you nowhere. That probably sounds really hard but it needn't be as long as you act cool (you can feel nervous inside but no-one need know!)Find out where he likes to go and then bump into him one time and say 'hey, didn't you used to go to my college? my name is...we used to take this class together. How are you doing now?' - be casual, keep it short and sweet or you'll look like you're being weird. Make sure you walk away from the conversation first, even if it is flowing easily, make an excuse and leave 'i have to go meet my friends now' BEFORE you run out of things to say! The whole thing should last just a few seconds but then next time you see him it will be easier to say hi again and start having conversations with him. Go from there and see how he responds. You may not get anywhere but it's worth a shot.Good luck!
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