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writes:How can I get boys to like me when im ugly? I need help... i feel really ugly all the time. Everyone around me is so much prettier. I get made fun of because of my short hair. I am 15 and a boy has never shown any interest in me, plus I am flat chested which I hate. What can I do to get boys to like me? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2009): look here is a saying i got told by one of the guys i know
'there are girls you practise on and there are girls you marry' just because you don't have a boyfriend now doesn't mean you won't in the future. Make friends with guys and maybe they will see you as a potential date, but don't rush it...so what you don't have a boyfriend, the only people i know with boyfriends are slightly slutty.
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reader, ewm0706  +, writes (5 August 2009):
 all rite from a guys opinion sometimes you have to go with the flow or and this is a last resort kind of deal whats the one thing on a mans mind thats right sex but you dont have to give it up just be extremely flirtatous and they will bow to you and also dont wear tight shirts that gives away the flatness so wear a little baggyer shirts to hide it keep them guessing and also when you get a guy to like you bad play a little hard to get it will be good for the relationship in the end k
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reader, KIMBERLIE +, writes (5 August 2009):
 hello sweetheart,
im so sorry you are feeling like this. truth is, when i was your age i felt exactly the same way about myself, i hated who i was and what i looked like, and none of the boys at school were that interested in me, and this is because young, silly boys are shallow and immature, only looking for girls in the popular crowd to date, but as you get older, believe me you will have an awful lot more interest from guys as they start to see who you are and not what you look like. just because your not that snotty little cow in the popular crowd, does not mean that you are not beautiful, because i bet you have a lovely personality, and that is worth so much more to guys as you get older, believe me. i have had a lot of interest from guys since i left school, and you will too. just be careful not to sleep with them for confidence, because in the end you will feel a lot more low about yourself. also another good trick is to maybe do something diffrent with your hair, make up, clothes etc because i find that really helps when you feel crappy about your looks. trust me things will get better with the whole guy and confidence situation.Oh and your chest will develop in time, just remember you wont always look flat chested ok? keep telling yourself that things wont always be this bad and start looking forward to the rest of your life and relationships that are heading your way. if you need anymore help, drop me a messagexxxkimxxx
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reader, humanonthestar  +, writes (5 August 2009):
I'm a boy, and I already like you for asking this. I know it's of no help, but I'm honest. You'll find the one who "gets you". It's more of a feeling that there's someone to be when everybody else is not; not the fact that you "have" or "have not" a boyfriend. Feel people, and trust people, and your soul mate will just appear one day.
Be happy! :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2009): Talk to them and be nice, friendly and genuine!
(Firstly, from the male perspective, I must declare whatever the opposite of an interest is, as I'm 95% into guys and haven't slept with a girl yet. But there have been girls I've fancied like mad, and there still are. I'm keeping an open mind.)
I've never seen anyone I thought was 'ugly' purely on the basis of what they looked like. The girls who think they look amazing, swan around thinking they're supermodels and act with cold, dismissive hostility to any guy they think isn't hot enough to breathe the same air as them? That's ugly. Arrogance. That's more off-putting than anything.
If you're shy around boys, bear in mind, lots of them are shy around girls too. Try breaking the ice. If you feel you could be happier with your appearance, maybe try and make an effort, grow your hair, see if a little make-up looks good. Flat-chested at age 15 I suppose is normal (I never paid undue notice to girls' breast sizes - I'm sure straight guys do, but you're 15, they could be huge in a few years' time!)
Above all, be confident and stop thinking you're ugly. Realise that it's your personality as well as your appearnce that will appeal to boys.
Best of luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2009): you are probably fooling yourself about the ugly thing. it's a self image problem. i hope you get over it. and about being flat chested, you are only 13-15 years old. you've got at least 3 years to grow into yourself.
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reader, peekaboo_422 +, writes (5 August 2009):
 well i am 13 so my advice probably wont matter to you but i find being yourself a good way to make someone like you.it is also good to have a good friend that is a boy.eventually things will heat up!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2009): firstly boys will not like you just because you have bigger boobs or longer hair. boys like girls who feel good about themselves.
stop looking at these other girls and thinking they are prettier because the more you do that the more you will believe it.
as soon as you forget about these things, and just be yourself and feel happy them boys will be picking up on this, you just see.
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reader, Charlpop +, writes (5 August 2009):
 Don't put yourself down so much, I very much doubt that you're ugly.
A lot of people suffer from body dismorphia, where you truly believe that you are less attractive than you actually are, so be aware that you may have this.
As for short hair, shorter hair looks a lot nicer than long thin straggles hanging down to your waist. If you're unhappy with your hair, you could have it styled at a hairdresser's to give you something to boost your confidence. The style and cut is more important than the length.
Also, the flat-chested issue. NOT an issue! I have plenty of friends who want smaller breasts, but I also have a few who want bigger ones. To be honest, I don't think any woman is happy with her breasts, but I know I personally would rather have small than large.
Okay, that's appearances aside, let's work on your confidence.
From personal experience, most guys don't fall in love [long-term, at least!] with looks. Most of my guy friends would rather go out with a less attractive girl who's a lovely person, than a model who is awful!
In the words of the legendary Gok Wan, 'it's all about the confidence'!
You don't have to have bags of it, but just a little is an amazing thing. Every morning, I want you to look in the mirror and tell yourself that you look good!
Smiling a lot and acting friendly is more important than looking like Carmen Electra.
Just because guys haven't asked you out, doesn't mean they don't like you. Every guy is different, so they'll like different girls.
Most guys I've encountered have a big defense mechanism - they won't show they like you unless they're 200% sure that you like them back.
What I would recommend is talking to guys more. It would probably be easier to talk to the ones you don't like in that way, and then you will become more confident about talking to guys in general.
A friendly face is more attractive than massive cleavage.
I'm talking from what I've picked up from life experience, so I don't claim to be 100% true on this, but I do hope it helps!
Good Luck =)
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