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writes:What can a person really do to get his ex back? None of this rubbish that you find posted online, these terrible quack advice givers.Has anyone been successful? Have any of you felt all hope was lost yet managed to win back the heart of your love? I need some real life examples and real life situations. Please.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2009): Yeah--I tried that. We didn't speak for two weeks back in October then a few emails and texts, then a phone call. After that we didn't speak for two months.
Then I sent another email and she said she wanted more than anything to be friends but that she needed to stand on her own two feet and see what the world had to offer.
Since then we've spoken on the phone and email and saw each other once. All of our contact was initiated by her, on her terms but I think that's drawing to a close as well.
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reader, didda123  +, writes (27 February 2009):
 Yes i have been in this situation and the advice i will give you has definately worked for me but i must stress that if really depends on the feelings of the other person although some people say that this doesn't make a difference but if they have any feelings at all it should work!
The best thing to do is back off completely. Don't contact them, ring, text email or even hang around where they may be for at least a few weeks.
They need time to actually miss you, if you are constantly trying to contact them one way or another you will only drive them further away.
I know it will be hard to do because i have done it, you will feel that if you leave them they will forget you but it isn't the case. The best thing is to keep busy, it is worse at night because your mind works overtime going over everything and i found if i was occupied with friends or doing something else i felt much better.
After at least a few weeks try to initiate some sort of meeting maybe try to be in the same pub as her so she can see you from a distance or maybe even smile or say hello on passing.
In my case my boyfriend whom i lived with has been back in touch with me it has taken 15 weeks and i must be half the size i was but we are speaking again at least and are trying to work things out.
I know you are in a horrible place right now but it is worth giving her some space and allowing her the time to really think things over, you don't just forget someone after a break-up it is a difficult thing to forget and then given time you start to remember only the good times so give her that chance to do that.
Good luck i hope it works out for you x
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