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writes: To all the males out there!In your opinion,what are men from 45 upwards looking for in a relationship with a woman? What is important, what less important? Your comments and insight will be appreciated. Reply to this Question
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reader, wildman  +, writes (14 June 2008):
 I thought I would make a new list since I forgot part of the question
Important to me the wildman
1- Easy going
2- Not high maintenance
3- Likes to experiment with sex (husband and wife only)
4- likes to go out to bars occasionally
5- No boob jobs
Less important
1- Body size as long as not excessive
2- career position
3- age difference ( mine is 54)
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you, for all the replies. It is very interesting and gives very good insight. Thanks!
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reader, wildman +, writes (14 June 2008):
1) Caring wife
2) Likes to have sex regularly
3) interested in experimentation
4) not hyper
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (14 June 2008):
 Dear poster, In addition to what the others have said, I believe you should also think about what you offer to the man in question. He might want this and that, but he would still need to take in consideration what your wishes are.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2008): I’ll try to list as many as I can think of right now. These are not in any order of importance.
Attractive – That is different for different men. For me it is reasonably attractive. I want her to care about how she looks and makes an effort to look good for me and herself. She does not have to be beautiful, just attractive in my mind. Important - The guy who dates or marries her should have the same attitude in himself, as he should in all of the things that he likes the woman to be. It should not be one sided.
Good sense of humor – She doesn’t have to by funny herself, but I want her to listen to my funny remarks and to enjoy what I say. I keep my wife laughing at least once a day, normally more often. She even laughs when my jokes are corny, only she laughs at me and not my joke.
Caring – I want her to care about how I feel; to care about me when I am down or sad. To care about my feelings if I am good to her.
Sexual – It is unlikely that partners will have the same sex drive, but both should work to compromise on their desires and sometimes give in to the others wishes. Let me give an example. A few months ago we went to bed and I was exceptionally horny, more than normal. I started to become affectionate with her, but she said that she was not in the mood. I still tried to kiss her all over and she again told me that she was not in the mood. I rolled over to my side of the bed to just talk or go to sleep. She said, “What are you doing?” I told her that I was just leaving her alone because I didn’t want to pressure her. She said, “No, no, I’m not in the mood to have a long lovemaking session. Just lube me up and screw me.” Now I don’t expect that type of behavior, but she occasionally does that for me, as I leave her alone when she is not in the mood. Sometimes I am depressed and she wants to snuggle, while I just want to be left alone. However, I put my arm around her and hold her.
Have similar interests – My wife and I have always had similar interests. Those interests have changed somewhat over our 29 years together, but we have both made an effort to participate in the others interests. After a short time, the interest becomes one of the favorites for both of us.
Ability to communicate – This might be the most important. It is necessary to want to talk about your differences and problems with your partner or to talk about your own problem with your partner. We both feel that it is important to talk about the things that hurt or bother us, even if the discussion hurts the other some also. We have not always been as successful as we would have wished, but we keep trying and succeed most of the time.
Honesty – Right up there with communication. I want her to be honest with me and I want to be honest with her. If she were to have an affair because I was driving her away from me, I would want her to tell me so that we could either work it out or decide if we should end our relationship. Hopefully work it out. I want to know the truth, even if it hurts and I want her to want to hear the truth from me, even if it hurts.
There will be ups and downs in any relationship. Sometimes neither partner will do as well as they would want or should and then the difficulty will have to be worked out and overcome. That may take days or weeks at times.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2008): Dash Wiz,
You got me going now..... A understanding about the males need for football and his liking for porn. I would say more but as you said, this is a question for males only.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI am not trying to be analitical, I am honestly trying to understand the male mind and will be interesting if they have they same meaning behind the word as us females. I am trying to understand, not being difficult, sorry!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2008): That seems a plain enough answer to me - but maybe you're the type of woman who wants to analyse every syllable of anything that's ever said to her?
I doubt the meaning of the words is any different to what you'd read in a dictionary.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionCan you please define the meanings of those terms, as understood from a male point of view?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2008): love,friendship,security,stability and a great lovelife
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