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We've been dating for 4 months but I don't feel that she is into me...

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Question - (2 September 2009) 2 Answers - (Newest, 3 September 2009)
A male United States age 30-35, *chasojiro writes:

I'm 21 and my girlfriend is 19. WE have been dating for four months, but I don't feel that she is that into me. She told me shes bad at expressing her feelings, and that had been a problem on past relationships. We only see each other once or twice a week and if i don't call her or text her she doesn't talk me. I really like her and i want our relationship to work out. But I feel like im the only one who wants it, I feel like it doesn't matter to her. Im not sure what to do or to say to her, can anyone give me advice?

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A male reader, dchasojiro United States +, writes (3 September 2009):

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thanks jessjess, your answer really got me thinking. I have a better idea what to tell her now. thanks again =)

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A female reader, jessjess United Kingdom +, writes (2 September 2009):

jessjess agony auntI'm feeling this too a bit with my boyfriend of a year. He's so lovely and I love him so much but I'm starting to get doubts that he is as into me as I am into him. Maybe tell her that you are starting to wonder where you stand- does she just not want to spend much time with you/is she too busy? What? That's what I might do soon. I think my boyfriend isn't too great at expressing his feelings either and whilst it may be part of their personality, being in a relationship in my opinion involves feeling secure and loved and when that feeling starts to fade that is not right. We all deserve to know we are loved. You need to tell her that you are unsure about where your relationship is headed because you don't feel that she wants to make it work as much as you do. You may well find that she is suprised that you have been thinking this and just not realised that by never expressing her feelings for you she has started pushing you away. Tell her a relationship needs to be balanced and you are not happy with having to do all the chasing/texting/calling all the time as it makes you feel like you are the only person in the relationship. It takes two! Good luck :)

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