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writes: Hi,I was wondering if anyone else has ever had the feeling that when your in a relationship things just seem to be getting similar? I've been with my boyfriend for about 19months and now things seem to be getting very samey (if thats a word) can anyone suggest something?Thanx for the help in advance Reply to this Question
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reader, amylou +, writes (14 February 2006):
amylou is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi thanx for the response. I guess we see each other evreyday, we're at work during the day. for the past month tho he lost his job and i've got to take 1month of work for being in hospital so now we are with each constantly, sometimes i dont mind but i think he's getting to the point that he's fed up with me. we dont have the same interests really, i try things with him, but doubt he will with me. I'll give it a try and see how things go. i've just started a new hobbie actually, i've bought a clairnet so that will get me out of the houseThanx
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reader, Lou77 +, writes (14 February 2006):
 Hey Amylou, Yes I have felt like that before, I guess it's natural for things to slow down (or so everyone tells you anyway) and it's likely that things will fall into a routine. The thing you have to do is change the routine and this includes sex (being that it is an issue and if it is, I advise getting a love manual/guide, I found this particulary helpful when my friend bought me one. Just remember, a good lover never stops learning!). You may need to try some new things together, for instance you could both be willing to try one activity that the other is interested in (rock climing or dancing maybe), I don't know how much time you guys spend together but it's very healthy to have a social life outside a relationship, that way you both have something different to bring to the relationship each time you meet up and also have time to let off steam. My ex and I lived together for three years and were friends with the same group, which was partly responsible for our breakup. I would talk to your guy about this and gently explain that you want to try new things with him and that you are just fanning the flames.Hope this helps.x
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