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writes:I am in a relationship with a girl who is different race to me and also different religion. Now we can't change each others' race and have spoken in length about religion and respect each others' religion but both of us will not change religion. The problem is her parents will not accept me if I don't change to her religion and my parents won't acept her if she doesn't change to my religion. Now we are both very close to our families and family is very important to us. What can we do to make them see sense and let them know we love each other? Please give me some guidance. We are both in our early 20s. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2006): Love has to be selfish most of the time. It is one thing to be responsible to your family, and another to live life with your partner. You can do two at the same time. If your parents don't like her because of her religion and race, too bad. I know it's harsh, but the reality dictates that you love her and she loves you. Ultimately, you will continue life with her, and your children, and their children and so on. Your parents are only in this, initially. They won't be here forever.Heed your heart son, go for the girl, but also be responsible towards your family. Love your girl and support her, but be the son of your family at the same time.
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reader, evilswan +, writes (22 February 2006):
Hi there,
i really feel for you, you're in an impossible situation. Either you risk upsetting your parents, or ending a great relationship.
I can't give you an easy answer i'm afraid - you need to accept that your parents may never come to terms with it. but that is ultimately their problem. you have to live your life as you see fit, you only get one shot at it.
i wish you the best of luck!
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