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writes:Ok, so my bf and I met on an online dating site. The thing is we both still have the profiles up! He brought it up a few times and said, "I'm thinking about deleting the profile." But he never did. I know that he's logging on every day. I haven't mentioned this to him but it does bother me a bit. I'm not sure if he's chatting with other girls and just keeping his options open. I spend all day with him on weekends. Then, during the week we talk and text throughout the day. We've been dating for a few weeks now. Should I be worried? He could easily find out if I'm online as well. The thing is he's been acting a little stange lately. I can tell.
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reader, samurai girl +, writes (12 February 2009):
 UGH! Went through this exact same thing. We are all adults. If you are someone's BF/GF that means you don't go on dating sites and you don't have a profile up, logging in to see who's looking at you because you shouldn't care.I told my BF if he wanted to keep his profile up, fine. That meant mine would stay up and I was going out with other people. He got the message and admitted that he was afraid to be the partner he wanted - one he could trust. Bottom line - if they both don't come down, then you either have an open relationship or none at all. Would you go out to singles events and chat up other men? It's the same thing!
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reader, DearCassy +, writes (12 February 2009):
 You two could either delete them or put on your profile "I'm currently seeing someone.I won't be using this site aslong as I'm in the relationship,and if things don't work out,then I'll be back on.Please don't send me any messages or notes that you're interested until further notice".Something like that.Hope I helped.
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reader, louxxlouxx  + ♥, writes (11 February 2009):
 He may have kept his profile because you haven't taken yours down and he thinks you may not be that serious.
Next time you are together you should say "I think you're right, we should delete our profiles cuz I really like you and think we should give things a go together :)" then you can take it in turns to delete your profiles when you are together.
Sounds to me like he prob logs on every day to do the same as you - to see if you have deleted yours and if you are logging on every day.
I think he really likes you, the strangeness may be because he is feeling a little insecure that you haven't agreed and deleted yours. Give it a try, you may be pleasantly suprised :) x
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