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writes:me and my boyfriend broke up just over a week ago we were together for 6 months and he just suddenly decided to brake up with me. we were arguing a lot. its just im finding it so hard to get over him, im still in love with him. he means so much to me, can you help me to get over him?
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reader, Faybelline +, writes (1 October 2008):
 Breaking up is never easy, specially if you don't make the decision.
After 6 months, of course you're going to miss him and have feelings for him still. Unfortuantely I think time is the only real healer in situations like this, cliche as it is.
The best thing you could do is to throw yourself in to a busy schedule; spend more time with friends, go out, maybe take up a hobby...anything to occupy your time and your mind. It is a lot easier said than done but, if you have something to take your mind off it, then you'll probably find it a lot easier to get through.
It may feel like you're never going to move on right now but you will; everyone experiences it at some point and, at the time, there's nothing more painful but it's something we learn from and something that makes us stronger.
Focus on the future and what you want to do with it, rather than concentrating on the past. Make a list of goals you want to achieve and by when and then focus on that. Now you're single again you have so much more freedom and can afford to do what you want to do without worrying about pleasing someone else.
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reader, jstar92 +, writes (1 October 2008):
 Just think about the reasons why you were arguing. Why did you used to get angry at you and why things just didn't work out. Go out, have fun, honestly, prove to him that you can live life even better without him - even if you don't feel like it is. After time, you will think about him less and less, and eventually you wont think about him at all.
Keeping yourself busy and having fun is probably the best way to get over someone. I can't say that it will be easy because it wont, but you have to convince yourself that what you're doing is for the best.
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