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Should I ask him out again? (While I'm still touring in his country)

Q.   There's this dude, let's name him T.(He lives in London while I live somewhere in Asia) We met in an online game a year back. We were sort of close, played the game together a lot. But after close to a year, he started playing lesser, and even...

A.   18 September 2014: It sounds like you should just let this one go. Don't put yourself out there again just to receive nothing, walk away from it. "and why isn't he bothering to reply to me after we met?" why do people ignore people in life? He doesn't want to invo... (read in full...)

Boyfriend has overly attached bromance...what do I do?

Q.   Hello everyone hope someone out there can give me some help on this issue i have. I recently started dating a guy who is wonderful andi really do like him. We only see each other about once a week because i work and he lives about half an hour away ...

A.   18 September 2014: Men have their bromances, fine. But this one does seem a bit, intense. I mean, if this 'wifey' was going through a particularly difficult struggle at the time and needed his friend, there would be some justification for this but it sounds like thi... (read in full...)

Boyfriend has overly attached bromance...what do I do?

Q.   Hello everyone hope someone out there can give me some help on this issue i have. I recently started dating a guy who is wonderful andi really do like him. We only see each other about once a week because i work and he lives about half an hour away ...

A.   18 September 2014: Men have their bromances, fine. But this one does seem a bit, intense. I mean, if this 'wifey' was going through a particularly difficult struggle at the time and needed his friend, there would be some justification for this but it sounds like thi... (read in full...)

I'm scared to get hurt again but I think I'm starting to feel something for my friend. What should I do?

Q.   I just came from a very bad case of unrequited love. I've been trying to get over the guy for almost two years.That guy was also the first guy I ever liked and loved so it's been two difficult years of emotional pain and ugly crying. But just five ...

A.   18 September 2014: It's very difficult when it's a friend but I have a question, are you over your ex yet? I'm not sure you are. I think that at times of pain like this, we cling on to small glimmers of kindness and intimacy (like lunch with a friend or deep conversa... (read in full...)

My boyfriend went out with a female coworker and I didn't like it. Should I go out with a male to see how he likes it?

Q.   Last night my boyfriend told me that he had a super nice dinner with a co-worker/friend because they were leaving. He then told me how the waiter thought they were engaged and he laughed and told me how he said no. Wait what? The friend was a gir...

A.   18 September 2014: It sounds fine to me but it depends on who you are, I know there are people out there who could never imagine such a thing between friends, those who say "men and women can't be friends" and crap like that. Look, he was honest about it to you as w... (read in full...)

Is it a good idea to tell my now-ex that I was in love with him when we were dating?

Q.   I'm looking for people's opinions about telling an ex that I was in love with him while we were dating. We broke up just under 2 years ago. We are not in regular contact. He told me that he was in love with me 2 months into the relationship and...

A.   16 September 2014: You could be opening up a box that doesn't need to be opened. I know it must be frustrating that you want to say these things to him, but he's probably moved on and if you did love him maybe you should do him the honour of letting him get on with... (read in full...)

I am having real issues with my boyfriend smoking weed and I don't know if I am overreacting or not.

Q.   I have been going out with my boyfriend for 2.5 years now, and in the last six months he has started smoking weed regularly. I have never liked weed for no other reason that it smells bad and is a waste of time and money in my opinion, but I have ...

A.   31 December 2012: I also have a bf who smokes weed and I also do not have a major problem with it. Right now, like you, my main concern with his weed addiction is what he will be like if we were to live together, it makes sense that you don't want your house smelling ... (read in full...)

Questions about cheating.

Q.   I am kind of surprised when women get cheated on and they weren't expecting it. It worries me, has anyone here ever been cheated on by someone who didn't have a reputation or someone who has never cheated before?...

A.   31 December 2012: Are you worried that this may happen to you? If so, you can't go into a relationship thinking 'what if?', otherwise you'll always have walls up and your partner will never fully get to know you because of it, and that will cause problems, possibly ... (read in full...)

Ruined meal! I am disappointed with my friends and I don't know how to tell them how much. What can I do?

Q.   I know there are people on here with real problems but if you could please take a minute to read my post I'd appreciate it. I feel really let down and annoyed by my so called friends. The 4 of us were trying to arrange a meal out before Chr...

A.   27 December 2012: i know there are some people who would rather not create an argument or bad atmosphere, but the alternate is not what you want to do. By not saying anything, you're making them think that you were OK with the behaviour, and as people have said... (read in full...)

Do I waste my time on my crush who doesn't seem to have any interest in me?

Q.   Seven years ago ( I was a freshman in high school) I met this guy who I liked (he didnt know I liked him at the time) and became really good friends with. We did everything together eventhough he had a gf and he knew his gf did not like me. We used ...

A.   27 December 2012: I think many people have 'that person' that they find very difficult to let go of. But you need to stop holding a candle for this guy, and move on with your life. Only YOU can live YOUR life, and your not doing yourself any favours by looking to the ... (read in full...)

I want somebody to love.

Q.   I feel like I will never be able to be successful with women. The only girls I have ever been good at flirting with are ones I am not actually attracted to deeply. I'm a virgin at 19 and am going through medicine. I had an ex who I was with for 2 ...

A.   27 December 2012: You're making mountains out of molehills, though I understand that to you, it doesn't seem that way. You're only 19! I have many friends who are also still virgins at your age and there's nothing wrong with them, they're not doing anything 'wrong' ... (read in full...)

Are condoms still necessary even if I'm on birth control pills?

Q.   I was just wondering if I was on birth control should my boyfriend still need to wear a comdon so we don't get pregnant? Thanks for all the help....

A.   18 November 2008: Yes they are, they aren't needed to stop pregnancy if you're on the pill but condoms stop STI's and the like. Better safe than sorry xx... (read in full...)

We're not compromising on our personalities - neither one of us is going to change

Q.   I'm "talking" to this guy. we're trying to get to know each other before we start an official relationship. One problem. There's basically no compromise. He loves to joke around at the most inappropriate times -- like when I'm mad or trying to tell ...

A.   6 October 2008: It seems that if both of you aren't going to compromise, then a serious relationship isn't going to work. If you're trying to talk to him and he isn't listening, then maybe you should just do the opposite, just don't talk to him as much - hopefully ... (read in full...)

How do I respond to being asked out?

Q.   Hey, I was just wondering about this. If a boy asked me out, and I said yes, it's just how...do you be a girlfriend? I mean what do you do? just hang out with him as much as you can? Sit with him at lunch? What do you do? I mean i'm only 14. I just ...

A.   4 October 2008: I suppose if a guy asks you out, then he'll probably start things off, maybe ask you to meet him and such, just start off by giving him hugs, hold his hand, be nice and smiley towards him. Everyones different when it comes to being a girlfriend. ... (read in full...)

Exactly how painful is it to lose your virginity?

Q.   What does it feel like to lose your virginity? I'm a smaller girl, and came close to losing it once, but it hurt too much for him to completely penetrate me, so I asked him to stop. I've heard it's painful, but I've heard it described to be en...

A.   4 October 2008: In my opinion, it's not terrible at all. Everyone worries that it hurts but if you're thinking of losing it, there are things you can do to stop it hurting so much. Foreplay, especially fingering can make it hurt less, Foreplay helps loosen the... (read in full...)

How can I find out for sure if he has a girlfriend...?

Q.   Hiya, This is several questions in one post: Background stuff: I really like this guy at sixth form, but sadly he is in only one of my classes. I think he likes me (going on the basis of how he flirts so heavily in class). I do not know much ab...

A.   4 October 2008: 1. If you don't want to be direct with him... ask him what he's been up too and what are his plans for the weekend, after a few weeks, if he has a gf, then she should pop up in conversation. Or, just try to think of a subtle way of mentioning ... (read in full...)

His parents don't like him seeing me so he "sneaks around" to see me and I hate it.

Q.   help i dont know what to do well okay here goes. me and my bf have been going out 4 about half a year now and we love each other to bits. his parents were fine about it till earlier on in may and that made them dislike me. Now they still haven...

A.   3 October 2008: Don't worry. These are his parents and it's his decision to still want to see you, and seeing as you've been going out with you, it doesn't seem likely that he'll stop seeing you just because his parents don't like him going out with you. There's no ... (read in full...)

I dared him to put my penis in his mouth. He did. How do I pretend it didn't happen?

Q.   I hope this really is annonomous. I can't believe that I'm even writing this. I have a really close friend, OK, my best friend named Tony. I've been married a little over 5 years, and been best friends with Tony for about 3 years. We are very close ...

A.   2 October 2008: I don't think there's any way of forgetting that this ever happened. But the worst thing to do is to avoid it, because then you're both going to be thinking about it and not knowing what the other one thinks about it. You need to talk about it with... (read in full...)

He had sex with another girl during our break up and also asked for sexual favours from another girl when I was on vacation. This upset me, what do you think? Am I too controlling?

Q.   I don't know what to do? --- My boyfriend and I have been dating for seven months. I love our relationship because we have so much fun when were together. The history of our relationship is this: We started dating in March, when after ab...

A.   2 October 2008: Don't worry about feeling too controlling. A lot of women would feel how you feel in your situation. Women don't want to be told about possible things that would make us jealous. Regarding what he did during your break-up... He probably didn't do t... (read in full...)

We took a break during which I had sex with two guys. Should I tell him or not? He said he would not talk to me if I did this!

Q.   ok so me and my boyfriend have been dating for a month but we're really serious im in college and i stay with him... we are so in love..but, we recently took a break and i had sex with 2 other guys...1 which i regret and the other i'm happy it ...

A.   1 October 2008: Usually the reason for breaks is because we are allowed to do these things. usually in a relationship both of the people will see different sides to the whole *break* issue, don't feel bad about it. You didn't have a title whilst on the break so ... (read in full...)

We think he's being used but what can we do to help if he won't listen?

Q.   so my guy friend is infatuated with this girl he met about a year ago. he insists that he is in love with her and tells her that almost everyday. the thing is that she has a boyfriend. about her real boyfriend, she's "officially" in a ...

A.   1 October 2008: Well, it's a tough one... If he insists that he's in love with her and he's aware of the situation but still goes with this girl, then there's really not much you can do. Once someone is in love, it's almost impossible to leave the one you love just... (read in full...)

We were arguing a lot so he broke up with me, can you help me get over him now?

Q.   me and my boyfriend broke up just over a week ago we were together for 6 months and he just suddenly decided to brake up with me. we were arguing a lot. its just im finding it so hard to get over him, im still in love with him. he means so much to ...

A.   1 October 2008: Just think about the reasons why you were arguing. Why did you used to get angry at you and why things just didn't work out. Go out, have fun, honestly, prove to him that you can live life even better without him - even if you don't feel like it is. ... (read in full...)

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