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male
age
16-17,
anonymous
writes:Yesterday my girlfreind slept over at my house and when my parents went to bed we watched a DVD and when it finished we snuggeled on the sofa and all night she hinted and told me she wanted to take the relationship further without having sex.This was ok however we are both still virgins and have never explored each others genitals. We both didnt get far and it was uncomfortable as we didnt know what we was doing. we was interupted when i heard my mum come downstairs to the toilet however we was not caught i was relieved it was abruptly stopped.we have a strong relationship so we are able to talk about things and i told her i felt like i had ruined the magic but she insists i hadn't. we agreed we would have another go at it when theres no parents but i need advice on where to go and what to do. Reply to this Question |
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reader, Dr Pete + ♥, writes (2 July 2007):
 I don't think watching porn will help you at all!
You can be incredibly close and intimate with your girlfriend just by taking things slowly but the most important thing EVER is COMMUNICATION. Don't be afraid to try things out with each other but make sure you ask how it feels and judge things that way. Girls especially are very, very different in what they like and dislike and if you try and copy what you see off a porn film the likelihood is that it will be 100% sexual and 0% sensual and your women is looking for sensual rather than sexual, I'm sure.
If you can both communicate with each other whilst you're intimate you will be great lovers for each other. Communication is what it takes, remember that :)
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reader, shawn styles +, writes (2 July 2007):
Don't watch porn as a guide to sex it's unrealistic.
Just take it slowly and make sure you are both comfortable with anything new before you try it. And if you are both virgins that is nice but don't rush into sex, let it happen and when its time for that you will know.
Before you move onto that stage you could try massage, masturbation, oral sex, grinding whatever you both like.
And always keep it safe.
x x x Shawn Styles x x x
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2007): i would suggest reading books or watching documentries at this point over porn. sex ed but no porn.
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reader, MyThoughts +, writes (2 July 2007):
watch some porn to help you no what your doing. it will teach you a lot you need to now about how to have sex and where to put it etc. plus shows what possions you can do
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reader, Danielepew  + ♥, writes (2 July 2007):
 I think you should go for her. But, don't forget to use contraception. None of you wants a baby at this moment.
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