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writes:If, you were friends with a girl you worked with and got on really well, chatting and talking regularly, approaching her on occasion to talk (uninvited, although she never seemed to mind), and then you stopped doing this, 1) because she moved to another floor (1 floor up)and 2) Because you didnt want to be seen as 'pestering' her (she already has a partner, and you have to also be careful at work to not be seen to be harassing people), if you were the girl, would you think that he is no longer interested in you, and start to become resentful?Lately, when we have crossed paths, she seems a lot colder (gone are the smiles and previous friendliness) and its harder to have a conversation, yet, other than the move, nothing much else had chnaged in the few weeks.We used to get on really well, yet now, it seems that it has all but fizzled out, and I want to try and regain that friendship. Should I be telling her that i still like her (as a friend, there's no chance of romance) or should I just accept it and try and forget about her.Perhaps she just lost interest in me herself. Is this scenario familiar to anyone?Thanks a lot for your advice
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionJust out of interest, i have resposted a new question, to more closely reflect my feelings for my colleague, state what I was thinking of doing etc, to see what people's views are.
Pretty much a rewrite of the same question.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo there is definitely attraction (that makes it harder I guess sometimes!)
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMy question is not so much about should I rebuild, but whether my actions (or lack of) have caused the friendship to fizzle out. I really would like to talk to her and try and see if there is any way to rekindle the friendship. I'm thinking perhaps that there has been too little contact between us over the last few weeks, and like anything that's neglected, has started to die.. (very profound I know)
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