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writes: I'm not sure what to do. My boyfriend and I have just bought a house and after talking for the last year about having children in a couple of years, last night he turned to me and said he never wanted children. I desperatly want children, and he has lied to me in the past saying he did. There has been several things that have gone wrong in our relationship in the past but we have got through it all. But, from time to time he throws things like this at me and I'm not sure if he does it to just have power over me to make me feel bad or if he likes hurting me or if he's just messed up in the head or hes just a total selfish B****rd!!I really don't know what to do regarding this and don't what to do to be in control of this relationship as I don't feel I am at the moment. I do love him very much and he says he loves me too. Can you help?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2005): Any man that treats you so disrespectfully...does not love you. True Love, consideration and respect go hand in hand, in a loving, supportive relationship. He sounds like a major control freak with some head problems. I feel sad for you-stuck in this rut with a man you love and he hasn't the "balls" to be honest, open and loving in return. Leave him, find your self-worth again and heal. Be strong and move ahead without him. He's a selfish loser-and a liar to boot. Ask yourself, do you want to spend a childless future with this guy? You truly deserve much, much better.
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reader, pops +, writes (24 June 2005):
Run, don't walk, to the very nearest lawyer, and sue to get your money out of the house. Leave this jerk. Any man that would lie about something as fundamental to a relationship as children does not deserve a second thought. I married a woman who lied about having kids to me. I stayed with her for 17 years before ending it. The relationship only went downhill after she fessed up to me. I became her driver, and someone who paid half the bills. Nothing more. Don't do this to yourself.
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